If you’re friends with an introvert, you might sometimes think they’re a big mystery to you because they’re quiet and private. You might even make assumptions about them, like that they never want to socialize. But that’s not true. Pay attention to what they say, as this will help you better understand them. Chances are, the introvert in your life has said one or more of the following things on multiple occasions. Here’s what they mean!
1. “I’ll have to think about it.”
Introverts usually need time to think about things before they jump in and make a decision. Whether someone invites them to a party or suggests a business idea, they’ll need to retreat into their sanctuary and think things through on their own. Give ’em some space.
2. “I love deep conversations.”
This is a common phrase introverts will say on first dates or when meeting someone new. They want to dig deep into a conversation, instead of keeping things superficial. This is why they prefer one-on-one interactions with people.
3. “I hate small talk.”
Although introverts might want to chat with specific people and go deep into topics, they’ll avoid small talk as much as possible! It feels like such a waste of time for them and can cause feelings of anxiety because it’s stressful to talk about the weather or traffic while seeming interested.
4. “Go ahead.”
During conversation, introverts will prefer the other person to have the spotlight. So, they’ll say phrases such as, “Go on” or “Go ahead” to encourage them to talk about themselves. They hate the spotlight and would prefer to sit back and listen to what other have to say.
5. “I need to head on home.”
Introverts crave being on their own. It’s their time when they can restore their energy and relax, instead of feeling the pressure to interact with others. So, they might leave parties or other social gatherings early. Now you know why they do that!
6. “Could you text me first?”
One of the biggest things that introverted people dislike is when people pitch up at their home unannounced. It’s a violation of their privacy and personal space! They always insist that people text or call them before visiting.
7. “Who’s going to be there?”
Although introverts like some social gatherings, they don’t want to attend all of them. Large gatherings might also cause them more stress, so they’ll want to know who’s going to be attending them before they agree to go.
8. “Let’s chat via text instead.”
According to PsyPost, Texting is the best way to communicate with introverts because they prefer it to chatting on the phone or in real life. It’s less pressure to communicate via text instead of having to interact in a more personal, intimate way. And please, let’s skip the video chats, okay?
9. “Hello, kitty!”
Introverts will likely be the first people at social gatherings to notice the pets that are hanging around. They’ll call out to these furry companions quicker than they’ll locate their human friends. Being around pets is more comfortable for them, and they don’t have to talk about the weather!
10. “Tell me about yourself.”
Chatting with introverts can make you feel special because they take a real interest in what you have to say. Their secret? They’d rather you talk about what’s on your mind instead of trying to fish for what they’re thinking. They’ll be sure to engage in everything you say and give you empathetic responses while keeping the pressure off themselves. Phew.
11. “Sorry, I can’t make it.”
It’s common for introverts to excuse themselves from social plans. It’s not that they don’t want to see people they care about, but rather that they need to ensure they have regular self-care and alone time to preserve their energy reserves.
12. “I’m feeling so drained.”
According to Psych Central, introverts tend to feel extremely tired or drained after social outings. It takes a lot out of them! This is one of the big ways in which they differ from extroverts, who get energized and feel buzzed after having social interactions.
13. “I’ll meet you there.”
When introverts make plans to hang out, they’re likely to want to get there by driving themselves. This enables them to leave a party or dinner whenever they want, without feeling like they have to wait for someone else to be ready to leave. That just makes them anxious!
14. “I’m going to the bathroom.”
Sometimes, introverts need a bit of time to themselves to breathe and regroup, even if it’s just for five minutes in the bathroom. They might even give themselves a bit of a pep talk in front of the mirror so they can boost their confidence before heading back to the party.
15. “I totally understand about the rain-check!”
It might sound weird, but nothing makes an introvert happier than when someone cancels plans with them. They’re not going to feel sad or depressed about it – they’re going to feel relieved that they don’t have to get dressed up and attend a party! And, when someone else cancels, it makes it so much easier because they don’t have to do it. Bonus.
