Why A Text Is The WRONG Way To Dump Someone

Breaking up with someone is never easy. Even if you know it’s for the best, having to actually say the words can be a struggle. That’s why people do all kinds of things in order to avoid a face to face break up. Anything from going radio silent, to just changing their relationship status on Facebook is considered a legitimate way to dump someone. But that doesn’t mean it’s right. You might think because he asked you out via text, you can dump him via text, but you’ll feel a lot better if you talk to him in person. Trust me.

  1. Would you want him to do that to you?Seriously. If everyone treated each other how they wanted to be treated, the world would be a much better place.
  2. He deserves an explanation.We all know how infuriating it can be when someone refuses to explain their seemingly out of nowhere decisions. If you ever cared about him, you owe him an explanation just so he can get some closure and move on.
  3. It’s spineless.You should be ashamed.
  4. He might not get the message.Whether literally or figuratively, there’s a good chance he won’t understand you’re serious if you just send a quick “we’re over” text. If you want to guarantee he won’t contact you again, in-person is best.
  5. Karma is a bitch. If you dump someone via text, you’re pretty much guaranteed to be dumped via text by someone you really like in the near future. It’s a scientific fact.
  6. You never know what the future could hold. What if you run into him a few months from now and you realize you still have feelings for him? You won’t even have a chance at a reconciliationif you sent a “we’re done” text and then ignored all his calls.
  7. You don’t know what they’re doing when they receive the text.What if he was just about to go into a important work meeting? Now you’ve distracted him and most likely ruined the rest of his day. You may want to get the break up over with, but try to be considerate of his time and priorities while you’re at it.
  8. The text you sent makes you look a lot worse than just doing the dirty work in person.Carrie Bradshaw said it best— “I think you could all get over your fear of looking like the bad guy and actually have the uncomfortable break-up conversation because, here’s what: Avoiding that is what makes you the bad guy.”
  9. Communication is important.If you can’t muster up the words to explain to someone why you don’t want to be with them, how do you expect to ever have a successful relationship for the rest of your life?
  10. Do you really want your break up in writing for anyone to see?People say things they regret during a break up. Do you want your probably-not-the-nicest texts to be sent around to all your mutual friends? Because recently dumped people are all about getting even.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.