If These Are The Only Reasons You Want A Relationship, Stop — You Can Do Better

We all need love, but there are times when we get so obsessed and consumed with finding someone that we don’t take the time to figure out what a relationship really means to us and why we actually want one. If you find yourself desperately wishing to be coupled up for one of the following reasons, you’re probably better off single.

  1. You’re so disillusioned with dating that you think settling is better than nothing. You’ve been dating for what it seems like an eternity and you’re fed up with creepy first dates, ghosting, and constant mixed messages. Even if you feel like putting all that behind and settling for anyone that won’t give you any crap, resist the temptation. True love exists and there’s someone for everyone. If you don’t believe in it, you’ll never find out what was on the cards for you.
  2. Your BFF has found someone, so why are you still single? When your bestie finds someone, it suddenly feels like your fun single life belongs in the past and you’re ready to follow suit. Never forget that love isn’t a race and being single isn’t a lifestyle choice. You’re simply holding out for something really good, so stop second guessing yourself.
  3. You career seems to be going nowhere right now and you feel ready to throw in the towel. Disillusionment with our career goals can make us all feel worthless and wreak havoc on our self-esteem. What better way to feel good about yourself again than by finding a guy to feed your ego, right? WRONG. A relationship should motivate you to go after your dreams, not forget about them.
  4. You’re aware that you’re getting older and won’t always be such a hot commodity. We all get older, even people in relationships. It’s just a fact of life that we all need to accept and it certainly doesn’t mean you’re going to be less attractive, interesting, and worthwhile to the opposite sex. Instead of worrying about losing your hotness factor if you don’t settle down soon, enjoy your awesome single hotness while you can!
  5. You’ve become distanced from your friends and you feel lonely. A boyfriend could never replace your friends, nor should he. Trying to make him a surrogate BFF will make you feel even more lonely and nostalgic of your sweet single life memories. Find a way to reconcile with your girls or make new ones. That’s what’s important.
  6. You think having a sugar daddy would make life easier. There’re so many examples in the world of women who have found a sugar daddy and now look like they’re set for life. After one too many crappy days at work, you too might be tempted to do the same and just go after a rich dude who can pay your bills and look after you. Don’t. You deserve much better than a guy that needs to pay for a woman’s affection.
  7. You feel guilty for letting down your loved ones.  Every time you’re on the phone with your mom, she asks if you’ve met a nice guy yet. In your heart, you know well much joy it would give her if for once you said yes — in fact, she tells you so regularly. However, you should never forget that this is your life and not hers. Anybody who cares about your happiness should be happy for you rocking it as a single girl and not want you to settle for less than the very best, no matter how long it takes to find it.
  8. You’re tired of asking your guy friends for favors — you need a man in the house. Life would be so much easier if you had someone to fix your computer, take the trash out and do all the “male” jobs in the house, right? Wrong. Traditional gender roles died years ago and you should be willing and able to do all the “guy jobs” that need doing. The feeling of accomplishment that will come with it is amazing.
  9. You’re horny AF. Don’t ever confuse your horniness for a need for romance. There’s scientific proof that strange things happen in our bodies when we need some action, and when it’s all over, the chemicals in our brains all go back to normal. Problem solved.
  10. People in relationships are taken more seriously. It used to be that society showed respect to married people and even more so if they had kids. This is no longer the case. Single is the new married, and singles are respected for being independent and career-focused. Being single is a privilege and not a flaw, so make sure to use it to your advantage!
Chrisa is a freelance travel and lifestyle journalist who is obsessed with urban life, big cities, and untold stories.