For some reason, a lot of guys out there believe that women do their hair, put on makeup, and dress up in cute outfits for their benefit. Of course, that couldn’t be further from the truth. While it’s nice when a guy finds me attractive, I couldn’t care less if he didn’t — I look hot for me.
- If I wanted to attract a man, I wouldn’t wear ridiculously bright blue lipstick. I do some seriously weird stuff to make myself look and feel pretty, and a lot of it doesn’t really align with what most men want when they go looking for a girl to chat up. Thankfully, that’s not why I do it in the first place. Sometimes, it’s just fun to wear crazy shoes and colorful makeup, and whatever a guy thinks of it is no concern of mine.
- I enjoy looking in the mirror and liking what I see. Sometimes that means I’m completely fresh-faced, other times it means I have a perfect contour and two pounds’ worth of product in my hair. My own need to be satisfied with my appearance is what drives me to look cute. And hey, if my future husband ends up liking how I look, that’s a great bonus perk.
- I feel more confident when I know I look good. As silly as it may sound, I’m a completely different person when I know my makeup and outfit are on-point. I’m more outgoing, I smile more, and I generally feel like a better version of myself. Even if I don’t get a single look from any man I see, I’m still going to be that same confident woman.
- I don’t put nearly the same amount of effort in when I’m trying to impress a man. The times when I spend two hours doing my hair and makeup aren’t when I’m getting ready to see my crush, but when I’m home alone and bored. I always opt for a more casual look when I’m with a guy I like because that’s the side of me he’s going to see most often anyway. When I really look bangin’, there’s a good chance that no one but my Instagram followers are ever going to see the results of all my hard-earned hotness.
- I love seeing all the changes I can make to my face with just a bit of makeup. I’m a far cry from all those YouTube makeup gurus, but I still enjoy transforming my face into a more glamorous version of itself. It’s really amazing what you can do with a bit of concealer and eyeliner, and even if men prefer a more “natural” look, that’s not my problem.
- Guys might not notice how good my eyebrows look, but I will. It blows my mind that people still think women try to look good for men when guys don’t even notice the painstaking effort we make to be hot. The dude at the bar isn’t going to notice that my eyeliner wings are FLAWLESS, and you can bet the only way my Tinder date is going to know that I spend an hour getting my fishtail braid right is if I just blurt it out. As long as I know I did a damn good job on my look, it doesn’t matter to me if anyone else notices the finer details.
- Just because a guy likes how I look doesn’t mean I did it for him. Sometimes, I get lucky and my look makes me AND a cute boy happy. But even if that’s the case, it still doesn’t mean that I went through all that effort just to turn some heads. I’d be lying if I said I don’t enjoy it when I get compliments on my appearance, but that’s not the goal I have in mind when I put myself together.
- I’ll get dolled up for a guy I like, but not for random dudes. If I’m dating a guy who loves it when I wear sun dresses, I’ll probably wear sun dresses more often. However, that’s about as far as I go when it comes to dressing up for a guy. I would never judge another woman for going out in an outfit she thinks will get her laid, but it’s just not really my thing. I prefer to save that willpower for a guy I’m emotionally attached to.
- I go through way more hassle for girls’ night than date night. If I’m going on a date, I’m probably spending a maximum of twenty minutes on my hair, makeup, and outfit choice. But if I’m going out for a drink with my girls, my bathroom is going to be occupied for at least a solid hour. It’s not that I’m trying to compete with my gal pals; I just really enjoy being super girly. By the time I leave the house, I might look like I was aiming for a red carpet look, but any guy who tries to talk to me while I’m out with my girl friends is going to be out of luck.
- My satisfaction with my appearance is all that matters to me. I say that I don’t look hot for men, but the truth is, I don’t look hot for ANYONE but myself. Even if literally no one else is crazy about my style, it doesn’t faze me. What’s truly important to me is that the way I look fills me with confidence. If a guy can’t appreciate that, he never had a chance with me anyway.
