You might not realize you’re pretty into someone in your life until your friends bring it to your attention or ask you if you’re officially an item. (Um, you wish!) While you might insist that they’re just a friend, it’s clear you can’t help but feel affection for them. Still in denial? Here are 16 undeniable signs you have a soft spot for someone — it’s time to acknowledge your feelings without fear!
1. You Crack Up Together.
Do your cheeks hurt whenever you spend time with this person? If you can’t seem to relax your facial muscles ’cause you’re both laughing so hard together, you’re bonding by sharing happiness and joy. Just the thought of your inside jokes makes you smile and chuckle, and that doesn’t happen with everyone.
2. You Memorize Little Details About Them.
Your brain seems to hold onto any morsel of information about this person. You remember everything from whether or not they put milk in their coffee to what their parents were like. You never forget the things they’ve told you — and it shows the person you really care about them.
3. You Always Have Time For Them.
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No matter how busy you are, you always squeeze in some time in your schedule to see this person. While you might think that’s no big deal, you’re showing that you’re willing to make space for them in your already packed life.
4. Little Things Remind You Of Them.
You’re going about your day when you hear their favorite song play in a mall or you see their favorite book in the bookstore. It seems like you’re always noticing things in your surroundings that remind you of them because your brain’s making them a massive priority, Boston University explains. Even things that seemingly have nothing to do with them bring them into your brain, proving yet again that you have a serious soft spot for them.
5. You Stay In Touch Even When You’re Super Busy.
You can’t imagine going for a few days or a week without talking to them — and you don’t want to. You always take a few minutes to call or text to keep your communication going even when you’re busy with work, family, and other commitments. It gives you a burst of endorphins to see their name pop up on your phone, and that doesn’t happen with anyone else.
6. You Find Memes To Make Them Laugh.
You love making them happy, so you’ll do whatever you can to boost their mood and show them you’re thinking of them. A typical habit is to send them funny memes, which you know they’ll laugh at just as hard as you’re laughing. You’ve lost count of how many you’ve tagged them in or DMed them, and vice versa.
7. You Protect Them Even Though They Can Look Out For Themselves.
If people speak badly about this person, you’ll stand up for them even if they’re not in the room. You’re always there to defend them because you know what a good person they are and you don’t want them getting a bad reputation, especially when they’ve done nothing to earn it. You know they’re human and not perfect, but you can’t stand to hear anything anything about the person you’ve developed such a soft spot for.
8. You Only Speak Positively About Them.
Whenever you talk about this person to your friends, you only have good things to say about them. There’s nothing bad about them that you can think of, though you know they must have flaws and imperfections. They’re a ray of sunshine in your life, and you’re always happy to sing their praises.
9. You Love Sharing Your Latest News With Them.
When something great happens to you or you need to vent about something that busted your mood, your first thought is to call this person. You want to share your daily life with them and include them in it. You know they’ll always be an amazing listener, offer good advice (when you ask for it), and will never judge you. Plus, they’re your biggest cheerleader, so they’re always happy to cheer when you accomplish something awesome.
10. You Can Sense Their Moods.
Whether you’re texting each other or spending time together in real life, you always feel tapped into their mood. You can tell if they’re feeling happy or if they’re a bit quieter than usual, which could indicate they’ve got something on their mind. You pay attention to what they say and don’t say and can read them like a book. You get them on a deeper level because you’ve developed such a soft spot for them.
11. You Think About Them All. The. Time.
You can’t help thinking about this person most minutes of every day. Before you even realize what’s happening, your thoughts naturally go to them. You might wonder what they’re doing or how their day is going, and it soon becomes second nature to fill your mind with them. You wouldn’t be like this if they were just a friend, right?
12. You Stalk Them On Social Media.
If you follow each other on social media, you probably like to check in on what they’re posting every day. It makes you feel good to see what’s happening in their life and stay updated on what’s important to them. You also like to feel them out based on their social media habits. You never know, you might find a hint that they have a little soft spot for you too.
13. You Lose Track Of Time Around Them.
You meet up with this person and before you know it, six hours have passed. Time seems to move so quickly when you’re together, even if you’re not doing anything special but just hanging out. You know what they say — time flies when you’re having fun. You lose track of the hours with them because you’re so caught up in how much you enjoy their company, and that’s saying something.
14. You Forget About Your Worries When You’re With Them.
When spending time with this person, you find it easy to forget about everything else, including all the things you were stressing about earlier in the day. They have a way of making you live in the moment and enjoy every second with them. Suddenly, all the bad stuff in your life doesn’t seem that awful, especially when you have them by your side.
15. Your Friends Tease You About Them.
You can sometimes gauge your feelings for someone by how your friends react. Maybe they can sense that things are a bit more tender or special between you and this other person, so they might ask you lots of questions about them or tease you to get you to ‘fess up about your real feelings. They see things you’re not willing to admit!
16. You Feel Special With Them.
Maybe this person has a case of the feels for you, or maybe they see you as a friend. Either way, they’re always kind to you and make you feel special. You never have to worry that they’re being critical or judgmental of you because they accept you as you are. It’s so refreshing and it feels amazing — and that’s what a good partner should do, per Psychology Today.