I Want The Kind of Love That Drives You Crazy

I’ve been in several serious relationships over the years, and each love was different than the one that came before it. I’ve had loves that are easy and loves that are hard, but the very best love — the love I really crave — is the kind that drives me absolutely crazy in the best possible ways. Here’s why I won’t settle until I get it:

  1. My relationship doesn’t have to be easy. I’m not afraid to make an effort — I’m totally willing to work for the right guy. Good relationships, the kind that last, are never going to be all sunshine and roses. Sometimes they’re going to be tough and that requires work to get through.  If I want a crazy kind of love that just keeps on going, then I have to put in just as much as I want to get out. It doesn’t have to be easy; we just have to keep loving each other.
  2. I don’t want just love. I want true love. I want a love that’s going to last a lifetime. I want to be crazy about a man. I’ve had loves that were real but fleeting. I definitely cared about those men, but it wasn’t exciting. It wasn’t that ‘can’t sleep, can’t eat, can’t breathe without you’ kind of love. That’s want I want — the kind of love that’s just crazy enough to actually survive.
  3. I want a man I just can’t get enough of. I’m not exactly a people person. I love my alone time, particularly because even if someone’s my friend, I’m going to get sick of them eventually. That’s why I need a guy I can’t get enough of. I need one person who drives me crazy in a good way. I want a man who makes me not prefer to be alone.
  4. I want a man who’s just as crazy about me as I am about him. I’m not going to settle for an unrequited love or an uneven kind of love. I don’t want to be with a man who clearly doesn’t love me as much as I love him. I want a man I’m crazy in love with and who can’t help but be crazy in love with me.
  5. I want our love to grow every single day. I want the kind of love where I don’t even think it’s possible to love a man any more, but the next day proves me wrong. I want to wake up loving him even more than I did the day before. I want our love to never reach a maximum, but instead go on and on because the more time we spend together and the more we know each other, the more love we share.
  6. I want to be crazy about him in every way. I want to be so crazy in love that it’s not just his heart I lust after but his body too. I want a good man but I want good sex too. I want to crave time with him everywhere, not just between the sheets. I don’t just want his heart, I want all of him.
  7. I won’t settle for someone who’s just “good enough.” I think every woman on this earth is too good to settle, including myself. There are a lot of really great guys out there, but that doesn’t make them the right guy for me. I’m not looking for just love. I’m looking for “The One” and I won’t settle for anything less.
  8. I want a man I can’t get out of my head. He should be the last thing I think about at night and the first thing in the morning. I want to love him so much that he’s always in the back of my mind. I want a guy I just can’t forget. I want the kind of man that replaces the daydreams I used to have about Ryan Gosling with him. I’m looking for one hell of a leading man, the man of my dreams because I believe true love really does exist — and not just in the movies.
  9. I want to miss him whenever he’s away. What’s love really worth if we don’t miss each other when we’re apart? I dream of a man that I can’t wait to come home to every night. I want to be someone who makes everything better just by being there for me. I want to miss him while he’s away so I can feel so excited when he comes home.
  10. I want passion. I don’t want a relationship that’s calm, slow and boring. I want excitement. I want a partner who makes me want to experience everything and anything. I want someone who makes me excited just to live my life. I want spontaneity and I want a love that just can’t be denied. Passion is what crazy love is all about.
  11. I won’t need him, but I’ll want him. That’s so much better. I won’t depend on our love, but I’ll desire it every damn day. I’ll wake up and want to be with no one else in the world but him. He’ll know what it’s like to be wanted by someone’s whole heart, not just a piece of it. I’m independent enough to never need a man, and that leaves all the room in the world to want him.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.