Loads of women are attracted to men who come off as “mysterious”, even if we don’t follow through on that interest. For some reason, the aloofness or withdrawn characteristics tend to pull us in instead of pushing us away. It makes us believe that these guys are intriguing and have hidden depths that need to be uncovered. But do they really know some sort of secret about life that we don’t, or are they just in a weird mood? Here are some more logical explanations when guys seem mysterious, because you know you want to know what’s really up with him.

He’s shy. Shy people don’t have to be awkward, bumbling messes; they can also be the more quiet, withdrawn type. He’s likely not hiding anything, he’s just not much of a talker.

He’s an observer. Maybe he just likes to spend some time watching the world around him so he can figure out what’s going on and make judgments before moving forward. That’s not so strange, is it?

He has a secret. Sometimes people really do have secrets, and whether it’s pertinent to you or not, you might never know. Or you might find out that guy you were dating had a girlfriend the whole time and suddenly all that “mystery” makes much more sense.

They’re careful with his words. Guys can seem mysterious when they listen more than they speak up in a conversation, because everyone wants to know what they’re thinking. It could be that he doesn’t want to say something he doesn’t mean, or it takes him extra time to get the right words to express himself.

He’s quietly confident. Some people don’t need to be dancing on tables to gain all the attention they could desire, so they don’t. Guys who have an aura of mystery surrounding them likely also have an air of confidence that falls just short of cockiness.

He’s not dependable. He may seem mysterious when he’s busy a lot or doesn’t show up to prior made plans, but it’s not because he’s secretly fighting crime by night — sometimes he’s just antisocial and a jerk bout anyone else.

He’s incredibly intelligent. Not all mysterious people are smart, but a lot of intelligent people come off as mysterious because they’re in their head so much.

He’s in control. Sometimes to a fault, because he doesn’t like other people in his life to be chaotic, either. Sometimes mysterious people are total control freaks just trying to keep things together. The fact that this reads as being mysterious is a blessing, because inside, he’s probably a bit of a basketcase.

He’s quirky. Some guys are mysterious because their responses or actions to normal things are totally different than average, which sometimes just spells straight up quirkiness.

He’s suffering from depression. Occasionally, what we read as mysterious is sadness, and research has found that people can equate sadness with desirable characteristics like being noble, elegant, and mature.

He’s socially awkward. Does he come off as mysterious because he answers questions in succinct ways that make you want to know more? That doesn’t necessarily mean he’s harboring anything juicy, he just doesn’t know what to say when he’s caught off guard.

He’s not flaunting his sexuality. Make no mistake, the mysterious guys can be the most sexy, but it isn’t because they’re putting it on display and offering it up — it’s because they’re confident in their sexuality and know that they’re appealing no matter what they do.

He’s just being real. Sometimes authenticity comes off as mysterious because it’s totally unexpected in a world where so many people are constantly trying to shape their images to best suit their goals. Just go with it.


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