What To Text A Guy To Make Him Want You

With texting playing such a big role in relationships, knowing how to do it well is likely to determine how successful you are in the dating world. This is especially true when it comes to flirting with a guy you’re interested in but maybe aren’t romantically involved with yet. If you’re stuck for inspiration, here’s what to text a guy to make him want you.

  1. “Hey, trouble.” If there’s one thing that gets guys’ attention, it’s flirting. This is particularly true if it’s a style of flirting that reminds them of Michelle Pfeiffer in the ’80s with a leather jacket. It’s sultry, cool, and aloof, and it leaves the ball in their court to come up with an equally sexy reply. You’ll be on this guy’s mind for sure.
  2. “Good morning, baby.” You might think that sending “good morning” or “good night” messages is a little too cringy for you. But, you’d struggle to find anyone in your circles that doesn’t appreciate them. It’s a small gesture, yes, but a meaningful one. It’s also easy, and free, which makes it a very effective way to make him want you. Pro tip: drop the “baby” if you’re not really romantically involved yet, as it may come off as a bit presumptuous.
  3. “What are we up to this weekend?” Some guys want to be the person in control, so powerful women can represent a threat to that. It’s not that we need to compromise our identities in service of this kind of men, but if we lead them to a chance to ask us out, that works too. We get the date out of it, and they get the opportunity to pretend that they’re in charge. This joking approach also shows that you have a great sense of humor, which is always sexy.
  4. “I want you to take me out.” If you meet someone willing to be challenged by you, then be direct. Being forceful and confident will get everyone’s attention, and it will make your guy weak at the knees. Giving people orders, it’s what we do best. Secretly, everyone wants someone else to take control now and then. This is a more aggressive version of asking what you’ll be doing together that weekend and really ups the ante if you’re ready to get this show on the road.
  5. Send memes, memes, and more memes. Showing your sense of humor is really key when you’re getting a guy’s attention. It shows that you have a similar level of intellect and cultural experiences. You can bond over your personalities rather than just sex, but that will come.
  6. Send pictures. Use suggestive pictures to start with, but don’t go straight for the jugular by sending nudes just yet. Send selfies and fun updates about your day so that you show him you’re busy but still thinking about him. He’ll likely send the same in return, and you’ll build anticipation with each picture you send. It’ll send him wild.
  7. Ignore him for a while. Do this, but remain active on Instagram. Show him that you’re not going to be at his beck and call all the time. Even if you’re busy, he doesn’t deserve your time just because you’re interested in him. Show that you’re unavailable and be very public when you do. It’ll make him think about how much he misses you. Keep it casual, you know. That being said, be careful not to take this too far because if you act like you don’t care for too long, he might just believe you.
  8. Talk about the shows you’re watching. When you’re texting, talk about things that you’re watching, listening to, or reading. It will show how compatible you are together, while also giving you an opportunity to learn about each other in a non-physical way. If you know you have this in common, it can be a huge bonding experience and really increase his attraction to you.
  9. Ask him about his hobbies. This is a low-maintenance way of connecting to his world. He’ll tell you about the things that interest him, as well as the things he’s passionate about. Then, when the time is right, you can start turning up at his games or inviting yourself around to his sports viewing parties. That’s an easy way of meeting his friends while also forging a strong connection with him about the stuff he’s into.
  10. Compliment him. Men are just like women in that we all like an ego boost. You have to make sure that the person you’re interested in knows you’re interested. You can play hard to get all you like, so long as you feed him some crumbs to follow. That’s an easy way to attract a guy.
  11. When you’re thinking about him, tell him. Guys love that, it shows them how they live in your head rent-free. Plus, he will reciprocate and do the same in return. It’s hot, and a solid reminder that we live long in other people’s minds.
  12. Talk about your fantasies. This is a great, albeit cheeky, way of attracting men. This is particularly true over text because the distance makes things all the more intense. When you next see each other, after teasing each other over text, it will be a special event. Learn more about what makes him tick too.
  13. Surprise him with nudes. This is a big hitter for when you’re feeling ready to step things up a notch. Catch him off-guard and send them to him during the middle of the work day. He’ll see them at lunchtime and have to hang in all day until you get home together. This is one of the more satisfying ways of making a guy want you, believe me.
Hannah has a Masters degree in Romantic and Victorian literature in Scotland and spends her spare time writing anything from essays to short fiction about the life and times of the frogs in her local pond! She loves musical theatre, football, anything with potatoes, and remains a firm believer that most of the problems in this world can be solved by dancing around the kitchen to ABBA. You can find her on Instagram at @_hannahvic.