Why Being High Maintenance Isn’t a Bad Thing

Being high maintenance doesn’t necessarily mean you have expensive taste or a demanding personality. What you do want is to have your needs and desires fulfilled. You have high expectations of the men in your life, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. If you’re a high maintenance woman, this is why you shouldn’t feel bad about it:

  1. You know what you want. While other women might be indecisive, you know exactly what you want from the get go. If you feel something for a man, sparks fly from the very beginning. While your friends might be in the do I/don’t I limbo, you’re sitting pretty confident in your choices.
  2. You know what you deserve. You won’t stand by as a man treats you poorly. If the relationship is unhealthy or unhappy, you find a fix or get out. When it comes to men, you know right away whether or not he’s worth your time.
  3. Respect comes easy. As long as you’re not demanding, it’s easy to respect a woman who knows what she wants and deserves. It’s all about the respect you have for yourself, because if you don’t stand by your decisions, no one else will.
  4. You’re confident. Not only do you have confidence in yourself, but you also have confidence in your own opinion and trust your own judgment. You’re not living to please others. You take control of your own happiness. Uncertainty makes you uncomfortable, so once you make a decision, you stick to it.
  5. You know how to communicate. If he’s a good guy, he’ll want to make you happy. It’s OK to tell your partner exactly what you want. It can even be helpful. Men can’t read your mind, and with you they don’t even have to try.
  6. You’re not afraid to be yourself. You can’t help but just be you. You wouldn’t even know how to fake it for someone else. The true colors of your bold personality always show through.
  7. You’re independent. You don’t need a man to make you happy and you don’t need to depend on anyone else to give you what you want out of life. You’re in control of your own destiny and you know just how to get to reach your end goal.
  8. You can express yourself. If you’re unhappy, your boyfriend will know it. There is no guessing here. You don’t have to waste your time dropping subtle hints and he doesn’t have to dope around wondering what he did wrong.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.