We see it all over social media every day: women claiming they have the best boyfriend ever who’s absolutely amazing. Most of the time in these posts, the boyfriends are just doing basic things like scrambling eggs or cuddling on the couch. I think we should set the bar for “amazing boyfriend” a little higher, because doing these 10 things is the just bare minimum:
- Texting you back. You’re not lucky if he texts you back, that’s just common courtesy. If a guy ignores your texts, he’s a jerk, but that doesn’t make the man who responds amazing.
- Remembering holidays.You always remember them, right? That’s because acknowledging holidays is a basic expectation in relationships. Meeting expectations doesn’t make you a rockstar, it just makes you a person who knows what day of the year it is.
- Being faithful. Guys don’t deserve medals for not cheating! It’s really not that difficult to just say no to other women.
- Trusting you. So your guy doesn’t throw temper tantrums and blow up your phone when you go out without him? Great. That means he’s not a psycho or completely emotionally stifled, not amazing.
- Cooking. Women should cook, men should cook, everyone should cook. Because you need to eat food in order to not die. Seems like a pretty basic task, right? Cooking isn’t a woman’s job, so he’s not doing you a favor by preparing food every now and then.
- Being honest. Honesty is crucial in a relationship. If he doesn’t lie to you, that helps keep the relationship together, but it’s not enough to call him awesome.
- Communicating. Most people are capable of turning the thoughts in their heads into words. Communicating is hard for people because they don’t want to do it, not because it’s actually a difficult task.
- Doing chores.If you spend time in a home, you’re contributing to the mess. Cleaning is just part of being an average responsible grown up, because you’re not his mother.
- Expressing his emotions. He can identify a feeling! Give him a gold star! Talking about feelings is uncomfortable for a lot of people, but it’s crucial if you want to make a relationship work. Expressing himself doesn’t make him the best ever, it makes him a normal functioning person.
- Sticking around when things get hard. Relationships involve supporting each other when you hit rough patches. There’s no point in being together if it’s only going to be for the happy days, because bad times are kind of an inevitability in life.
