You’re Better Off Alone Than With Someone Who’s All Wrong For You

You’re Better Off Alone Than With Someone Who’s All Wrong For You

The thought of being single can be terrifying, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time. A lot of people stay in unhealthy relationships just because they can’t imagine having to go back to the single life, but being single doesn’t necessarily mean you’re alone, and there a lot of things about it that are actually pretty awesome. The bottom line is that being in a relationship is something that should make your life better. If it doesn’t, you’re with the wrong person, and you can do better.

  1. You deserve the best. Don’t ever feel obligated to stay with someone for any reason. It’s easy to get caught in the trap of believing this is the best you’ll ever find, but if you aren’t happy, you can and will find someone better. You just need a little faith.
  2. It isn’t supposed to be hard all the time. If you think relationships are hard work, then you’d be right. But that doesn’t mean the bad times should outweigh the good. You should be able to look at your relationship as a whole and honestly say you’re happy the majority of the time, or else it’s just not worth it.
  3. One day you’ll regret settling. Maybe choosing to overlook certain things seems like a good idea now, but there could come a day where you wish you’d chosen to embrace the single life when you were still young. You don’t want to wonder years from now if there was someone out there who you would have been happier with.
  4. Being single has its perks. There are too many awesome things about being single to list here. But just know that you definitely aren’t guaranteed to be miserable just because you don’t have a boyfriend.
  5. You can’t force compatibility. Maybe he’s perfect on paper, and he’s exactly what you always thought you wanted, but there’s just no… spark. You have different opinions on some pretty important things, and he just doesn’t get your sense of humor. There are some things that no amount of dedication to the relationship are ever going to change, so just accept that he’s not The One and move on.
  6. You could be focusing on yourself. Instead of figuring out who you are and what you really want, you’re working too hard to maintain a relationship that isn’t going anywhere. Stop wasting your time.
  7. Figuring out what you don’t want is half the battle. We all date the person who’s all wrong for us at some point, but as long as you learn something from it and know when to call it quits, there’s nothing wrong with that. So, once you figure out they’re wrong, don’t stick around, because nothing is going to change.
  8. It’s not going to suddenly get easier. If you’re only a year or two in and it’s not going well, chances are nothing short of a complete relationship intervention is going to turn things around. Instead of looking at it as time wasted, try looking at it as lessons learned.
  9. You’re not the only one that can tell it’s not right. Anyone who’s close to you can tell something is off. They want the best for you too so if they think you’re settling, you better believe they’re going to bring it up at some point. And you definitely shouldn’t be letting your mediocre relationship cause problems in your friendships.
  10. Relationships aren’t the only important thing in life. There are tons of other things to focus on that have nothing to do with who you’re dating. You need a life outside of a relationship, so get one.
  11. You could be missing out of the right person. If you’re spending all your time trying to make a failing relationship work, you could be missing out on someone else who is perfect for you. Literally, they could be standing right in front of you, and you’d be too busy text-fighting with Mr. Wrong to notice.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, Complex.ca and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo