10 Definite Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back To You

After a breakup, it’s normal to wonder whether your ex will ever want to rekindle your romance, especially if he was the one who pulled the plug on the relationship. Only time will tell whether the two of you get back together. But until then, there are some clear signs to watch out for that may indicate your ex will come back to you sooner or later. The bigger thing to decide, however, is whether you also want to give things another go!

  1. You have a history of being on-and-off. This is one of the biggest and most obvious signs your ex will come back to you. As they say, history often repeats itself. If the two of you have been in this position before but have gotten back together, then chances are it’s bound to happen again. But this isn’t necessarily a good thing. An on-and-off relationship is a sign of immaturity as well as incompatibility. So, you need to be completely confident that you truly want to try again, not that you’re simply repeating an old habit. Otherwise, there’s nothing stopping you both from breaking up again in the future and facing even more heartbreak.
  2. He stalks your social media. If you notice that your ex-boyfriend is watching your stories, liking your content, or even commenting on your posts, then it’s a sign that you’re still on the top of his mind. If he was genuinely trying to move on, he’d be sure to avoid you online. At the very least, he wouldn’t be trying to get your attention through notifications.
  3. He drunk dials you. If he calls you when he’s intoxicated, it’s another sign that you’re still heavily weighing in his thoughts. People are less inhibited after a drink or two, so they’re more likely to do something that requires courage, like reaching out to an ex. Even if he’s calling you to tell you how upset he is with you, the very fact that he’s reaching out means he’s not ready to let go of the relationship just yet. And, if he calls you when he’s not drunk to talk about things, that’s an even better sign since it shows he’s not just stuck in his feelings after one too many drinks.
  4. He’s trying to make you jealous.  If he was really over you, then he wouldn’t care what you think about him. But if he’s clearly trying to impress you in real life or on social media, then he still gives a damn. Beware – trying to make an ex jealous is a sign of immaturity, especially if he’s doing it by dating another person. Proceed with caution.
  5. You broke up over something silly. Many people break up in the heat of the moment, and then come to regret it later when they’ve calmed down. If the two of you broke up over something trivial (especially if he was the one who over-reacted), there’s a good chance you’ll come back together. Conversely, if you broke up over something more serious (like infidelity), the chances are less optimistic. Even if the two of you reunite, you may not have addressed the deeper issues that caused you to break up, which could lead to another split down the line.
  6. He asks your friends how you’re doing. If he goes out of his way to reach out to your friends, then it’s a sign he still cares for you. Of course, the romantic feelings may not be there. But so long as he still cares about your well-being, there’s still a chance it could blossom into something more again. It may take time, but this is a sign that there’s still hope for your relationship.
  7. You’re trying to stay friends. If someone is completely done with a relationship, they want to cut all ties. Even if they hope to be friends with their ex in the future, a person who’s serious about a breakup will likely realize this can’t be achieved until there’s been some time and distance to process the split. But if he’s insisting on being friends (especially if he wants to hang out), it means he still wants you in his life. He’s not ready to cut ties, and he may very well want to get back together.
  8. He hasn’t returned your stuff. The best way to make a clean break after splitting up is to get your ex’s things out of your life. So, if he hasn’t made an effort to return your stuff and collect his, then he likely doesn’t want you out of his life completely. In fact, it’s a good sign that he believes there’s still hope for the relationship.
  9. You keep running into him. Don’t automatically assume it’s a coincidence if he’s attending all the same social events, shopping at your favorite grocery store, or hitting up the library when he knows you’re likely to be there. Sure, if you keep running into him, it could be the universe trying to bring the two of you back together. But more likely, it’s his way of trying to get back into your life. He may hope the two of you have a conversation during one of your run-ins that leads to something more and could be the catalyst to bring you back together.
  10. He’s been acting unhappy. It’s not out of the ordinary to feel down after a breakup. But if your ex is clearly unhappier now that the relationship is over, he may be thinking about getting back together. They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, so maybe he realized how important you are to him and wants to try again. Now, it’s up to you to decide if you feel the same way.
Alexandra is a freelance writer in Montreal, Quebec. She enjoys shopping as a sport, Buffy the Vampire Slayer re-runs, and being a plant mom.