10 Signs He’s Lost Interest In You, According To A Guy

Has your guy lost interest in you or is this just the natural progression of a relationship? How can you tell the difference? Here are some signs he’s not really feeling it anymore.

He’s stopped putting effort into his appearance. Has your boyfriend stopped wearing his nicest clothes when he sees you? Have his grooming habits drastically worsened since your first few dates? Has he stopped showering completely? All of these are definite red flags which may indicate that he’s lost interest in you. That being said, they could also simply imply that he’s become comfortable and relaxed in your presence, which is a good thing. To be absolutely certain, pay attention to his body language. Does he cross his arms when you speak? Does he grimace at the very sight of you? Has he ever walked away from you during a mid-sentence? None of these are reassuring signs.

He doesn’t ask you questions and only talks about himself. The early days of a relationship are so much fun, aren’t they? Those lengthy late-night conversations where you gradually piece together your personalities, learning who the other person is on a more personal level. But what happens when that crossword fills up? And what if the answers are all boring? Then the challenge is lost and the interest will be quick to follow. How will you know if this is happening? When he interrupts your stories, abruptly changes the topic of discussion, and never remembers anything you say. If he doesn’t notice your new haircut, then your once special bond may have been truly broken.

The sex has changed. To make matters additionally confusing, a loss of interest can result in two polar opposite sexual side effects. On the one hand, he may no longer feel attracted to you. The desire for sex will evaporate and there will be no more action found in your bed. On the other hand, he may care about the sex, the whole sex, and nothing but the sex. He’ll only call you up for special visiting matters. Your personality is no longer of importance to him, you’re just a body now. Maybe it’s time to find someone else who loves you inside and out.

The flirting dynamic is all wrong. If your boyfriend has started to flirt with other girls in front of you, then he’s sending you a secret signal. This signal may be saying anything from, “I much prefer this girl over you,” to “I want you to be jealous because that’s how insecure I am.” One option may be sweeter than the other, but neither is very healthy. You know what else isn’t healthy? Being in a relationship like this.

The laughter is gone. When you initially hook up with someone, it’s all about the adorable teasing and lighthearted chitchat, while your happy energy illuminates the air. As a relationship goes on, however, certain elements may grow stale. Your daily conversations could become humorless and mundane. His jokes may have run dry and you haven’t smiled in days. The very idea of conversing with this man seems like a chore. It’s up to you where you draw the line here.

He’s always picking fights. Whether he’s subconsciously trying to drive you away or your very presence fills him with frustration, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that the sweet guy who once thought you could do no wrong is gone. Instead, he’s been replaced by a rude, bitter man—one who makes offensive remarks and is somehow blind to your sharp wit and radiant beauty. Here’s what you do: next time he overreacts, overreact more by leaving completely.

He doesn’t message you anymore. Once a relationship has passed that initial fantasy period, a slight lull in excessive eagerness is to be expected. However, if you’re doing all texting and he’s only sending back one-word replies, it’s safe to say that his resource of enthusiasm has been depleted. Test out the theory by ceasing all contact yourself. He’ll either freak out and get in touch or the whole relationship will dissipate into the mist.

He’s too busy to see you. No matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to slot yourself into his schedule, which is funny because he somehow finds enough time to get drunk with his friends. Does this sound familiar? Perhaps he craves the chase. Maybe he’s actually a very busy guy. Whatever the reason, an endless strew of excuses is a bad sign. Count the number of times he’s blown you off recently and if it’s more than once, you may need to seriously reevaluate what this thing is.

There’s no talk of progression. As human beings, we tend to push things to the max as fast as possible. When this momentum suddenly comes to a crashing halt, it’s only natural to start asking questions. Why does he introduce you as his friend? Why won’t he make it official on Facebook? Why do you never discuss your future together? The truth is, if you don’t feel like his girlfriend, you’re probably not.

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