You can’t get this guy out of your head no matter how hard you try to distract yourself with other things. Are you falling in love with him or jumping the gun and getting ahead of yourself? Here are 10 signs that prove you need to chill because it truly isn’t that serious.
- You didn’t like him right off the bat. When you first saw him, you weren’t automatically in love with him. I mean, maybe you thought he was cute, but it wasn’t like you felt compelled to run over to him and strike up a conversation. In fact, it wasn’t until your friends pointed out he was looking at you that you put on the charm. Once he came over and showed some interest, you were sold. So basically, you didn’t like him until he liked you, right?
- It hasn’t even been that long. You’ve only hung out with him what, once? Twice? Have you ever even talked on the phone? NO? Then, how could you seriously be all about him?! Unless you’re some sort of psychic who can look into someone’s eyes and see their life, you don’t know enough about this guy to be thinking about him every second of every day.
- He’s not even really your type. The more you learn about him (through your brief text conversations and from the stalking you’ve done on social media), the more you’ve realized how different you two are—and not in a good way. He likes to hunt and you’d join PETA if the members weren’t so crazy. Sure, there are some differences that aren’t dealbreakers, but for the most part, you can already kind of tell that in the long-run, the relationship wouldn’t play out in a positive way.
- You just love love. If you’re seriously all about a guy you barely know, it might be because you’re one of those romantics who just “loves love” (I say in a Disney princess voice). Maybe you like the idea of marrying a guy you met at a bar so in 50 years, you can tell your kids the story of how he caught your eye from the corner of the room. Life doesn’t work that way. Let it go.
- You don’t super enjoy your time with him. When you two hang out, do you have that good of a time? Are you laughing nonstop or is it just kind of okay but you’d be just as content doing something else without him? You know what it’s like to have a good time with a guy, so ask yourself, do you have one when you’re with him? No? Then what’s the big deal?!
- You can’t name three distinct things about him that you love. You say you like him, but what exactly do you like about him? In my experience, if someone can’t name at least three unique characteristics about another person, they don’t really like them. If the only things you like about him are his looks, his job, and his confidence, get a grip. Those are the most generic traits ever. If you like his eyes, the way he cocks his head back when he laughs, and his ability to talk to anyone he meets then okay, maybe you really do like him.
- He’s not even that cool. He doesn’t even come correct! It’s not like he’s texting you every day or making plans to hang out. You two haven’t hung out that much because he constantly cancels plans. Um, what? Why is he even a thing in your life if he’s acting like a such a lame mofo?! Oh, maybe that’s it. You like him so much because he’s so absent because he’s an a-hole. There it is!
- Your friends don’t get it. If your friends are looking at you with raised eyebrows because of how completely psycho you’re acting about a guy you barely know, take notice of this. Friends can be a type of conscience. Were your friends there when you two met? Did they observe the initial contact? Perfect. If they don’t get what all the hype is, it’s probably because there shouldn’t be any hype. They know you and if they saw the spark in your eyes go off when you talked to him, they’d be all about this relationship. That’s not the case, is it?
- You’ve been known to create unnecessary drama. More than a few people have called you out on being a drama queen and deep down, you know those allegations are true. You can’t help it, you just love the drama of new relationships (we all do). You like wondering when he’s going to text you first and you love spending time with your friend’s re-playing things in your head in order to look for the deeper, true meaning that’s not really there.
- You’ve been single for way too long. How long have you been single? One of the reasons you might be so interested in this dude is because you’re itching for a relationship. Right now, you might be more focused on dating a guy than dating the right guy. Yeah? If you’re ready to confess your love for this basic stranger, you might want to not do that because the feelings aren’t really there…at least, not right now. Don’t settle for Plan D when you’ve yet to even touch Plan A.
