10 Things You Need To Do For Yourself Before You Even Think About Getting A Boyfriend

If there’s one piece of advice you should follow, it’s that you should never rush into a relationship just so you can say you have a boyfriend. Even if you find the perfect guy for you, you’ll never last if you aren’t in the right place. That’s why there are a few things you need to do for yourself before your soulmate comes along.

  1. Learn how to love yourself. You aren’t going to be comfortable being loved by someone else until you learn to love yourself. That’s why you need to stop thinking so negatively about yourself and start thinking about the qualities you love about your appearance and personality. In the wise words of Ru Paul, “If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?”
  2. Learn how to take care of yourself. If you value yourself, you’ll take good care of yourself mentally and physically. That means you’ll eat well, exercise regularly, and give yourself positive reinforcement. It’s hard to have a healthy love life when you have an unhealthy body.
  3. Learn how to touch yourself. Your future boyfriend won’t have a clue how to make you orgasm. That’s why you should learn what makes you tick while you’re still single. When you find a man, then you can pass on the information. It’ll make life easier for the both of you.
  4. Figure out what type of man you want. Even if you’ve never been in a relationship before, you can easily figure out what you like and dislike in another person. Take a second to think about all of your female friends. Which qualities of theirs would you like in a partner? Which qualities annoy the hell out of you? The more you know about what you want, the easier it’ll be to find it.
  5. Get over all your ex-boyfriends. Remove the word “rebound” from your vocabulary. You can’t date a new man until you get over your exes. If you let your past infiltrate your present, you’re never going to be happy. You need to learn to live in the moment.
  6. Find a career. Yes, you can balance a career and a love life. However, you should focus on your job search first. Despite what most romantic comedies would have you believe, a career won’t stop you from finding a partner. Meanwhile, if you find your future husband first, you might rely on him to pay the bills and never pursue your own passions. So be safe and focus on your career before you search for a hubby.
  7. Find a female roommate. Before you find a serious boyfriend to share an apartment with, you should live with a person you’re not involved with romantically. That way, you’ll learn to deal with all of the problems that sharing a place entails without having to worry about a breakup. By the time you move in with your future boyfriend, you’ll already know how to deal with common apartment problems.
  8. Create a list of life goals. If you wait until you enter a serious relationship to create your bucket list, your partner could influence it. Since he wants kids, you might start to think that you want kids, too. That’s why you should create a list of life goals while you’re still young and unattached.
  9. Get your inner promiscuous phase out of your system. If it’s your dream to travel the country sleeping with Brits and Aussies, do so as soon as you can. You’ll never know when the right man will come along, and when he does, you’ll be off the market. So be as flirty and promiscuous as you want while you still can.
  10. Make new friends. When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to isolate yourself. You won’t have as much time to make new friends, which is why you should focus on expanding your social circle before you focus on finding a boyfriend.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.