10 Things Women With Emotional Toughness Do Every Day

Emotional toughness might be misinterpreted as coldness or insensitivity, but that’s BS. In fact, it’s a form of strength that helps you navigate challenges with resilience and ease. Women with this trait often stand out for their ability to handle the sh*t that come their way without crumbling under the pressure. Want this to be you? Practice these daily habits and you’re on your way.

  1. They have a “why.”  Every morning, women with emotional toughness set clear intentions for the day ahead. This isn’t just about to-do lists; it’s about defining what they hope to achieve emotionally, mentally, and physically. What gets you out of bed in the morning? What inspires you to keep going, to push through tough times, to do your best? This is your “why.” Maybe it’s your kids, maybe it’s a long-term goal you have. Perhaps it’s just that you know your own capabilities and you want to make the most of them. That “why” serves as your armor to get through the toughest of days.
  2. They practice mindfulness (even if they haven’t exactly mastered it yet). They understand the power of being present. Mindfulness exercises, even if it’s just for a few minutes a day, help them stay grounded. Even if they find their thoughts wandering or their attention divided, women who are emotionally tough understand the importance of mindfulness and being intentional.
  3. They face challenges head-on and thrive on them. Instead of shying away from tough times, emotionally tough women view them as opportunities for growth. They approach challenges with curiosity and even excitement, asking themselves, “What can I learn from this?” There’s no way to avoid adversity throughout life, so they know they’re better off embracing it. As a result, they always come out the other side stronger than ever.
  4. They set boundaries and hold people to them. Emotionally tough women recognize the importance of setting limits in relationships, whether personal or professional. This ensures they don’t get overwhelmed or feel taken advantage of, and it also allows them to cement their sense of self-worth. After all, if someone doesn’t know how to treat you or simply refuses to treat you well, why are you sticking around?
  5. They move their bodies and break a sweat. Exercise isn’t all about losing weight or looking physically hot; it’s for the mind too. A regular fitness routine helps you manage stress, increases those feel-good hormones known as endorphins, and boosts your overall well-being. These women know that you can’t be emotionally or mentally strong without being physically strong too.
  6. They don’t overanalyze every little thing. There’s nothing wrong with a little reflection, but there is such a thing as taking it too far. Emotionally tough women avoid spiraling into negative thought patterns by using healthy strategies like journaling or speaking with a therapist or their friends to process feelings without getting trapped in them. They know their minds are a powerful tool and that it can work against them if they let it.
  7. They value and prioritize emotional connections with their loved ones. Relationships are a source of strength. Emotionally tough women prioritize genuine connections, understanding that a solid support system is essential for feeling happy, healthy, and fulfilled. No woman is an island, and the more we recognize that, the better off we’ll all be.
  8. They practice self-love and self-compassion. These women understand that everyone has off days. Instead of being overly critical of themselves, they treat themselves with kindness. After all, they wouldn’t be so judgmental or harsh with the people they love, so why would they be that way with themselves? A bit of grace goes a long way.
  9. They avoid drama and negativity wherever possible.  From limiting time on social media to being selective about the news they consume, emotionally tough women protect their mental space. They’re mindful of what they allow into their emotional ecosystem. They don’t doomscroll or spend time on things (or with people) they know will depress or upset them. They don’t have their heads in the sand, by any means — they just know how to disconnect when needed.
  10. They reflect on their day before bed.  When they hop into bed at night, emotionally tough women take a few minutes to think about the day’s experiences, their feelings, successes, and things that could have gone better or worse. They also consider what they’d like to be different the next day. This daily ritual keeps them grounded and forward-focused.

Emotionally tough women aren’t born; they get that way through a combination of practice and conscious choice. It doesn’t happen overnight and you’re likely to take one step forward and two steps back at times. However, with a bit of perseverance, you can join the ranks of the badass too. In fact, you might already be there.

Jennifer has been the managing editor of Bolde since its launch in 2014. Before that, she was the founding editor of HelloGiggles and also worked as an entertainment writer for Bustle and Digital Spy. Her work has been published in Bon Appetit, Decider, Vanity Fair, The New York TImes, and many more.