Self-love is about showing yourself some much-needed TLC. After all, at the end of the day, the only person you really have is yourself. Although self-love ultimately manifests differently from one woman to another, there are certain principles that a woman who has mastered it will always do to strengthen her love for herself regardless of what that looks like. Have you mastered these?
You’re in tune with your emotions. If you know your emotional self well, you’re probably a master of self-love. This is because a person who is in touch with her emotional self is also someone who makes time for personal reflection and to practice self-care. You know what makes you tick, what inspires you, what you love, what makes you feel happy, and what triggers your bad feelings. Emotions are vital information that can always help lead you to personal understanding. Tuning up in this way is self-love because in knowing your emotions, you actually take the time to examine your inner self.
You treat your body like a temple. Treating your body well is the paradigm of self-love. You only have one body in this life and research shows that the way you treat your physical self is correlated with the way that you feel about your emotional self too! Maybe you have an evening bodycare ritual where you slather lovely butters and essential oils on your body, or you practice a favorite workout routine. Or, maybe you prefer to stick to a certain diet because it makes your body feel good. However you take care of your body is up to you, but the fact that you’re doing it at all is an important way to show your self-love.
You treat yourself with kindness. We are way too hard on ourselves these days! Life is often much harder than anyone is ever prepared to handle. Some days you’re killing the game and other days you’re not doing as well as you anticipated. But despite the inevitable obstacles in life, a woman who practices self-love is always kind to herself. Kindness isn’t just something to give away to others, it’s also a gift to give yourself.
You never speak badly to yourself. Similarly, a woman who loves herself does not speak poorly to or about herself. Self-criticism is a form of self-hate, not love. It doesn’t mean you can’t be reflective when it comes to your mistakes, but it means you should talk to yourself with the utmost care. Mistakes are central to what it means to be a human and handling them via soothing thoughts and words is a beautiful form of self-love. If you wouldn’t tolerate someone speaking poorly to you, then don’t tolerate it coming from yourself either.
You curate a living space that inspires you. Your living space should reflect the self-love that you feel. It should inspire you and it should feel comfortable and lived in. It should feel like home. Whether you like a big bed with plush, decadent pillows in a dark, cozy candlelit bedroom or a brighter room with walls that emphasize the sunlight as it streams through large picture windows, your living space will reflect the reverence you feel for yourself. Spending time curating a space that makes you feel safe, loved, and at peace is one way that masters of self-love demonstrate their love. There is just nothing like coming home from a busy day in the world to a place that makes you feel serene.
You make time for yourself every single day. Whether it’s five minutes or an hour, making time for yourself is a major part of self-love. Modern women lead busy lives. We have busy careers. We maintain friendships and relationships. We take care of our families. All of the commotions requires serious alone time! Do you know what making time for you looks like? Maybe that means taking yourself to the nail salon or treating yourself to a Starbucks coffee. Nurturing yourself by making time for your wants and needs is a beautiful form of self-love. It’s like a little reward for being a badass!
You advocate on your own behalf. I learned a long time ago that speaking up for myself not only makes me feel really good about myself, but it is also a super important self-love practice. This is because when you speak up for yourself, you’re telling others that you know your worth and you won’t settle for less than what you’re worthy of receiving in life. If love isn’t expecting the best for yourself and being your biggest fan then I don’t know what is!
You reward yourself for your accomplishments. Women don’t take enough time to celebrate their accomplishments! Large or small, women often tend to celebrate their successes only momentarily before getting back on their grind. Well, stop and smell the roses why don’t ya? Self-love is just as much about celebration as much as it is about nurturing yourself. If celebration means taking yourself to a solo fancy dinner or finally ordering that dress you’ve been eyeing at online — make sure that you do it! But it might also mean taking a day off from work every once in a while to take stock of the amazing things that you’ve been able to achieve lately. However you celebrate, just do it. It’s a powerful way to show yourself some love.
You help others. Women who master self-love have enough left over to help others. Helping other people in big or small ways can be deeply rewarding, especially if you’ve mastered your self-love. When you’re able to reflect the deep, loving regard you hold for yourself out into the world and help other people because of it, good things will inevitably happen to you and for you. Spreading the love from within, that is key to leading a positive, healthy life.