You can’t change your life if you’re going into 2020 with the same toxic relationships. Instead of expecting this year to be different, you need to actively make changes and swear off those who tear you down. Here are 10 types of relationships to leave in 2019.
- The Relationship That Makes You Self-Conscious This relationship isn’t good for your mental health. This person, whether a significant other, a friend, or even a family member, doesn’t really care about you. If they did, they wouldn’t put you down. They’d speak to you with kindness and do their best to build up your dreams rather than shattering them. This relationship isn’t one that’ll benefit you in the long-run, so go ahead and leave it in 2019.
- The Relationship With Your Toxic Ex How many times can you forgive someone for making the same mistakes? You might think it’s a sign of maturity but it’s not. It’s a sign you don’t think you deserve better (which you do!). You can’t keep forgiving your ex for constantly screwing you over. Not only are you hurting yourself but you’re enabling them. Why would they change if they don’t have to?
- The Relationship That’s One-Sided Newsflash: You don’t always have to make the plans, so stop dealing with people who make you feel like you do. One-sided relationships are hurtful and exhausting. No one likes to feel like a pain in the butt for wanting to see another person. That’s exactly how these relationships make you feel. It’s not your job to fuel this type of relationship in 2020 — leave the ball in their court.
- The Relationship With The Married Crush STOP TALKING TO YOUR MARRIED (OR OTHERWISE COMMITTED) CRUSH It’s messed up. I know you weren’t the one who initiated contact, but you need to be the one who ends it. You’re doing yourself, your crush, and their partner a huge disservice otherwise. Remember, karma is real. Do yourself a favor and leave this person alone in 2020.
- The Relationship You Keep Secret You shouldn’t be in a relationship if you have to keep it secret. That either means you know it’s wrong and that’s why you don’t want to advertise it or your partner is asking you to keep quiet, which probably means they’re not fully invested in you. Regardless of the reason, don’t settle for a love you can’t shout to the world.
- The Relationship That Steals Your Energy There are two types of people in this world: those who give you energy and those who zap you of it. You need to swear off the latter. Are there people you dread spending time with and always leave feeling like crap? I’m not saying they’re horrible people, but their energy doesn’t complement yours. You don’t need to spend a ton of time with people you hate. It’s as simple as that.
- The Relationship That’s Comfortable Comfortable relationships aren’t always happy ones. They can be, but the two aren’t necessarily exclusive. You might be with someone who makes you feel secure, safe and loved. But do they make you feel happy? That’s the question. Don’t start 2020 in a convenient relationship because you’re too afraid to take a risk.
- The Relationship Without Labels You might not care about labels, but they’re important if you’re someone who likes commitment. You want to find your forever person, right? That means you can’t entertain people who refuse to put a title on it! Don’t agree to an open relationship, friends with benefits, or something between the two. Make sure the only thing you look for in 2020 is a relationship with a title.
- The Relationship That’s Filled With Drama We all love drama, but that doesn’t mean it’s good for us. A relationship filled with ups and downs isn’t a successful one. You might think love should be a bard, but in actuality, it should be easy. If you’re crying one minute and smiling the next, you’re in a toxic relationship and it’s keeping you from reaching your potential. In 2020, swear off relationships that feel like never-ending roller coaster rides.
- The Unhealthy Relationship With Yourself Letting go of unhealthy relationships is the first step to a better life. The second? Bettering the relationship you have with yourself. Getting rid of toxic people won’t do anything if you, yourself, are toxic. Be kind and patient with yourself this year, and don’t forget to be respectful. You might not always feel good, but that doesn’t give you the right to be mean to yourself.
