When it comes to ensuring your love life is happy and healthy, you need to put yourself first. You can’t let someone walk all over you and mess with your head. While decades before may have urged women to grin and bear it, this is 2015 and you don’t have time to smile and let crap roll of your back. You’re worth more than that. You don’t deserve to be banging your head against the wall hoping someone will change, when it’s clearly not in their DNA to do so. It’s time to take a stand. Here are the new relationship rules you need to follow to keep your heart and brain in a good place.
If he cheats, it’s over.
There’s no room for a three-strike rule when it comes to relationships. There is a world full of people who wouldn’t think of doing such a thing, so ditch the one who cheats even once.
If he doesn’t support your goals, move on.
It’s one thing to be on different pages when it comes to you and your partner’s goals, but it’s another thing if he doesn’t support the direction you’re heading. Relationships are about support, and if he can’t do that, you need to say goodbye.
If he doesn’t bring positivity to your life, find someone who will
. Being with a killjoy is just going to kill your own sense of self. Don’t stick around for that BS.
If he doesn’t give a damn, neither should you.
A major key that makes relationships work is actually giving a damn about the person you’re with and the relationship you have with them. If your partner can’t do that, why waste your time? Someone else is going to care tenfold.
If he doesn’t like your friends and family, it’s a dealbreaker.
Your friends and family have been around way longer than this new person in your life. They’ve been through everything with you and they love you unconditionally. If someone else can’t see how important they are to you and can’t learn to love them, it’s a problem.
If he makes you feel inferior, hold your head high and walk away.
You are not inferior, and anyone who makes you feel that way is dealing with his own insecurities. He needs to work that out on his own; you can’t fix someone else’s issues with himself.
If he’s abusive in any way, don’t stand for it.
While you may not be able to press charges against someone for verbally abusing you (although you should), if someone physically abuses you, take legal action. Do not try to talk yourself out of it and makes excuses for them. And most importantly, get out of there.
If he makes you second guess yourself, then tell him.
It’s hard enough to know exactly who are, so if you have someone who’s making you feel like every choice you make or everything you say is wrong, then tell him. If he can’t see the damage he’s causing, then drop him. You can stand on your own two feet and that’s something you should never second guess.
If he humiliates you, take your leave.
Whether he humiliates you in the presence of others or behind closed doors, that is never OK behavior.
If he has substance abuse problems, give him an ultimatum.
While it’s important to support someone who may be suffering with addiction, if he doesn’t want to help himself, you can’t do it for him. You can only give so much. He needs to get help or you need to walk away before you give too much of yourself that you’re depleted. There’s nothing wrong with putting yourself first.
If he loves you 100 percent, don’t be afraid to do the same.
When you find someone who loves you, supports you emotionally, respects you, and wouldn’t think of hurting you, love him with everything you have. It’s not easy to find true love, so when it comes your way, don’t be scared to give it your all. Falling in love is always a risk, but if you feel in your heart that this person is worth it, then go for it.
- What’s Your Hottest Quality? Here’s What Your Zodiac Sign Suggests
- You Know You’re In An Almost Relationship If You’re Sending Him These Texts
- 17 Life Struggles Of Women Who Are Naturally Loud
- They Might Not Seem Like It, But These 12 Things Are Emotional Abuse
- “Duty Dating” Is A Thing And You Need To Start Doing It ASAP
- Your Drunk Self Is Your Truest Self, Science Says
- 12 Reasons You’re Single Even Though You’re A Catch
- 14 Little Things That Look Like Love But Are Actually Manipulation
Share this article now!