Some people think being in a relationship, even if it’s a crappy one, is better than being alone, but those people are wrong. There are times when you’re better off alone, and if you relate to any of these signs, you really don’t belong in a relationship right now:
- You still miss your ex. For whatever reason, your ex is always in your mind and you rack your brain constantly about why it didn’t work, if it’s still fixable or whether or not they’re happier without you. If you still miss your ex, a new relationship isn’t going to help you move on.
- You have low self-esteem. If you don’t love yourself, nobody else is going to love you. It sounds ridiculously cliche but it’s true. Before getting into a relationship with anyone, you need to work on being happy with you so that you don’t settle for less than you deserve.
- You feel lost in life. No matter how hard you try to get your act together, you don’t know which way is up in life. Guess what — jumping into a relationship with someone isn’t going to help that. Work your stuff out and when you’re actually ready for a relationship, you’ll be more likely to find the right guy.
- You have a hard time being alone. If you hate being alone even for a few hours or find that it gives you anxiety, that’s not a good sign. If you can’t spend time with yourself, what makes you think anyone else is going to want to? You have to enjoy your own company because there are times when it’s all you’ll have, and it should absolutely be enough.
- You think a relationship will fix all your problems. Relationships will never fix any issues you have with yourself or in your life, and if you think that being in a couple will magically put everything in place, then you’re sorely mistaken. The only person that can fix your problems is you.
- You’ve been a serial monogamist since you were a teenager. If you’ve never taken the time to be single, you’ve never really given yourself a chance to do you to the fullest. Being a serial monogamist won’t land you Mr. Right any faster, so it’s better to be alone and figure out what you want before being with someone for the sole fact that they’re there and they like you.
- You think people in relationships are generally happier. People in relationships can be happier than single people, but it sure isn’t because they’re part of a couple. Your happiness relies on you and you alone, and if you expect to be happier just because you’re in a relationship, you’re living in a fantasy.
- You’ve never been happy single. Being happy while being alone is important when it comes to finding long-term love. You don’t need a relationship to be happy and until you learn that, you’ll probably always rely on others to bring meaning to your life.
- You don’t know what kind of life you want. If you’ve never taken the time to discover your passion or decide what kind of life you want to live, a relationship isn’t going to help that. A partner isn’t going to have those answers. They can only come from you.
- You cheat in every relationship you’re in. If you find yourself constantly cheating on partners, no matter who they are, there’s a problem there. It probably has something to do with not knowing what you want, but until you figure out the reason behind it, you’ll never be able to have a functional relationship.
- Forever alone scares you to death. You’re still young and have plenty of time to find The One, but for some reason, you’re convinced that because you’re single now, you’re probably going to die alone. It’s not true, but if it’s only reason you want to be with someone, you’re not going to find a fulfilling relationship, just a placeholder partner.
