11 Things Women Who Are Single AF Secretly Wish For Sometimes

We came to terms with being single AF a long time ago and at this point, we’re pretty much okay with it. We know love will come along when it’s meant to and there are a lot of amazing things about being on our own, but that doesn’t stop us from occasionally wishing for these 11 things:

  1. That a white knight would ride up and sweep us off our feet. It’s not that we need someone to save us, it’s that we still want to believe in Prince Charming even though we know he doesn’t actually exist. We’ve been playing the game, but sometimes we wish it would just be over. We want to win, but we don’t want all the BS. We want white knights in a game full of jesters.
  2. That people would stop asking why we’re single. We’re constantly getting asked why we’re still single as if there is something wrong with us. It’s as if we’re being defined by our relationship status. There is such a thing as a stupid question, and this is a prime example. We’re still single because we just haven’t met the right person yet. End of story.
  3. That men would be clear about their intentions. If a man just wants to be casual, why can’t he just say so? Why can’t guys say they’re only interested in sex if that’s the case? The worst we could do is decline their offer, but instead, a lot of them lead us on by making us think that they want an actual relationship. That’s not mixed signals — they’re giving us false hope and that’s just plain heartless.
  4. That heartbreak wouldn’t hurt so badly. Some of us barely survived the pain of heartbreak. Falling in love might be the best feeling in the world, but being thrust out of it is the absolute worst. Love is like heaven and heartbreak is hell. It’s a prison built for us to miss what we had and long for what might never be. Losing love might have to hurt, but it shouldn’t be that cruel.
  5. That moving on would be easy. At least as easy as a lot of guys make it seem. Guys seem to move on so much faster, while we spend months maybe even years trying to put the pieces of our hearts back together. We can’t forget the way things were and we can’t get over the men who break our hearts. Everyone says it just takes time, but it seems to take a lot less time for the men of the world, even if that’s not the reality.
  6. That players would get what they deserve. We all like to believe that karma will have its way with them in the end. We hope that someday they pay for the pain they caused us and maybe even endure some heartbreak of their own. Somehow we see the men who wronged us go on to wrong others. If only we could have been their last victims.
  7. That there really is someone for everyone. We all want to believe this wish will come true. We might be happy with our single lives, but that doesn’t mean we don’t want to find a true life partner. None of us want to walk this world alone. We all want someone by our side, and that’s why we wish with all our might that every single one of us was destined for someone. Crazy, right?
  8. That men would stop labeling us as crazy. We give guys our hearts and how do some of them repay us? By stomping all over them and then calling us emotional when we react with care. It’s not fair for us to be labeled as crazy just because we dare to feel. We all just want to be loved. What’s so crazy about that?
  9. That love didn’t come at such a high price. The risk factor in the dating game is anything but fair. We either find true love or we get our hearts shattered into a million pieces. We put our hearts out there and just have to hope they come back whole. We wish there was a way to part softly, but when it comes to love, each hit is a hard blow.
  10. That being single was as easy for women as it is for men. Men who are single get to be bachelors. They’re admired for their independence and even for their sexual exploits. Women, on the other hand, are shamed for being alone. We’re taught that to be single means there is something wrong with us, as if our lives depend on finding a guy. Men are usually honored and women are often shamed, and it seriously sucks.
  11. That love would be easy to find. Where’s the love? No clue. We spend years being single and making ourselves available. Love isn’t hiding right around the corner, though — trust us, we’ve looked. We wish that love would just land on our doorstep, but for some reason, that’s just one of our many wishes that never come true.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.