12 Reasons To Stay Single For As Long As You Possibly Can

Sometimes you’re single by choice, and other times it feels like no matter how hard you try to meet someone, you’re still on your own date after date. That doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Rolling solo is way more awesome than you might realize, and it’s worth staying the course. Here’s why you should stay single for as long as you possibly can:

  1. You’re being unapologetically you. It’s not like your entire personality disappears when you’re in a relationship, but you do tend to change a bit. It’s just inevitable and that’s just the way it goes. You make sacrifices and compromises and while it’s worth it if you’re truly in love, things get complicated fast. When you’re on your own, you can really live your life the way that you want to and that’s pretty awesome.
  2. You can take time to really figure things out. Life is no joke sometimes, even if it feels like the universe is playing one on you. You’re still young and figuring things out, and that’s a hell of a lot easier to do when you don’t have a boyfriend to think and worry about. Whether you’re focusing on finding yourself, your career, or your healthiest self, it’s smart to do that on your own before even thinking about love.
  3. You don’t need to follow a timeline. What’s the use of worrying about your bio clock or that every time you log onto Facebook, someone else is engaged? There’s no reason to feel like you’re not measuring up to some ridiculous standard that society set long ago before you even had a say in it. Well, you have a say in it now, and you can choose to date again when you’re ready. If it’s not the right time, it’s not the right time.
  4. You can’t force love. You already know that no matter how much you want to fall in love, you can’t make that happen. It’s going to happen on its own and you can’t do much about it, so why would you drive yourself crazy? Why not sit back and enjoy your life? You’re only going to regret doing the opposite.
  5. You’re not doing anything wrong. It’s easy to feel the pressure from your friends and family who just want to see you happy and coupled up already. The pressure gets worse the longer you’re single, but remember this — you’re not doing anything wrong.
  6. You’re actually normal. Call it an awesome new trend or whatever you want. More and more women are single… and staying that way. So if you think that being part of a happy couple is the norm, that’s totally changing, and you’re way more normal than you might think. There’s no reason to feel weird about your solo status.
  7. You know love isn’t perfect. It’s pretty great that you know that your life won’t magically be perfect when you get a boyfriend. Since you can see the cracks in the surface and understand that relationships aren’t always fun, you have a realistic view of life. And it’s okay that you want to enjoy your peaceful single life for a bit longer.
  8. You’ll be in the best place to find love. Of course you can’t control when you meet someone, and maybe next week or next month you’ll say goodbye to your single status. But you should definitely stop stressing about not having a boyfriend right now because the older you are when you’re in the right relationship, the better chance you have at finding real love. You’ll know who you are, who you want to be with, and you won’t sweat the small stuff.
  9. You love your status quo. People act like being in your comfort zone is a bad thing, and yet finding a groove in your own life can be pretty amazing. You feel comfortable being right here, right now, and there’s no reason to feel negative about it. If you really don’t want to change anything about your life right now, why should you? You can find a relationship later.
  10. You’re in a certain phase of your life. Some seasons of your life are all about actively dating and searching for your person… and other times are all about focusing on the other things that you care about. Neither one is good or bad. It’s just what you need right now. If you’re in the phase of your life that is not about dating, that’s completely cool.
  11. You won’t regret it. You might think that you will regret not actively looking for love, and yet you will feel the total opposite. You will love that you gave yourself the time that you need to live your life without all the drama and disappointment.
  12. You always have time. It’s not like the universe is going to stop you from finding love whenever you want to. You can absolutely try again in the future when it’s the right time for you. Stay single for as long as you feel like it. It’s going to be the best thing for you.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.