13 Types Of Guys Who Don’t Deserve You

13 Types Of Guys Who Don’t Deserve You ©iStock/SrdjanPav

Sometimes you have to learn the hard way what you don’t want in a significant other, but eventually you get to the point where you’re a lot more comfortable being single than being in a bad relationship. Usually that shift comes when you realize you’re a catch and you stop wasting your time on jerks who don’t deserve you.As soon as you see them for what they are, you’ll be on to bigger and better things. Here are 13 types of guys who aren’t worth your time:

  1. Guys who are intimidated by you. If he can’t handle how confident, smart, independent, and successful you are, there are plenty of guys out there who can.
  2. Guys who don’t appreciate your sense of humor. You’re hilarious in your own unique way, but if he doesn’t laugh at your jokes, there are going to be a lot of evenings full of awkward silences. Don’t bother wasting your best material on a guy who doesn’t get it.
  3. Guys who mooch off you. You may be perfectly willing and capable of paying for dinner, and drinks, and his cell phone bill. But that doesn’t mean you should.
  4. Guys who refuse to commit. If you’re looking for a commitment, you shouldn’t settle for a guy who can’t give you that. Maybe you think he’ll eventually come to his senses and realize you’re The One, but if he acts like he’d rather be picking up a new girl every weekend, you should probably let him go do that.
  5. Guys who are just using you until something better comes along. Does he change the subject any time you bring up the future and where you relationship is going? He doesn’t want to be single, so he’s treating you like a placeholder until the real love of his life comes along. You’re under no obligation to keep him company until he finally decides to dump you.
  6. Guys who don’t listen to you. A guy who has no interest in your opinion will just pretend to listen to you. If he doesn’t care about anything you have to say then he doesn’t care about getting to know you, and that’s just a waste of everyone’s time.
  7. Guys who don’t respect you. There are plenty of subtle ways a guy can show he respects you including trusting your opinion, and caring about your feelings. If he doesn’t do those things, why would you want to date him anyway?
  8. Guys who think they can control you. If he thinks he can tell you want to do, he doesn’t know you at all. A guy who needs to feel like he’s the one in charge all the time isn’t capable of the type of relationship you’re looking for. You want a partner, not a boss.
  9. Guys who cheat on you. Cheaters don’t know how great they have it until they completely screw it up. Or they just don’t care. Either way, you can do better.
  10. Guys who try to manipulate you. Emotional manipulation can be just as damaging as physical abuse because it makes you feel like you can’t trust your own instincts. You need a guy who lets you be your own person and loves you even more for it.
  11. Guys who lie to you. If you’re completely honest with a guy, you deserve the same in return. If he can’t do that, he obviously cares more about himself than he does about you, and in that case, you’re better off alone.
  12. Guys who don’t make you a priority. Obviously everyone has priorities outside of a relationship that they have to pay attention to, but if he never makes any extra effort for you, he doesn’t want to. That’s unlikely to miraculously change.
  13. Guys who make you feel bad about yourself. Never let anyone make you feel like you aren’t good enough for any reason. If he doesn’t want to be with you, he’s free to leave, so his unhappiness is no excuse for putting you down.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.