Feeling like you’re going on the same ol’ date with the same ol’ person all the time lately? Or can’t land a date at all? I hear ya’. It can be tough. And what’s worse is that when we’re feeling like this, it’s often hard to stay motivated and push yourself out of that slump. But it is possible. Here are 15 ways to get out of a dating slump.
- Change where you typically go on a first date. First dates can be scary, so it’s easy for us to want to go to places where we feel most comfortable. But being comfortable isn’t always the best state to be in while dating. In fact, it’s probably the worst. Spice things up and try something new.
- Stop thinking about it. Sometimes you just need to distract yourself from a problem so you can solve it.
- Look outside of your “type”. The reason you’re in a slump could be because the type of person you’re going for just isn’t working out for you.
- But don’t lower your standards. Dropping your standards will just make you more depressed and you’ll stay in your slump for even longer.
- Listen to your friends’ advice. Everyone needs objective input now and then, and sometimes your friends might be able to chime in with some useful insights!
- Let your friends set you up. Hey, it could be fun! What do you have to lose?
- Let your parents set you up. They did raise you, surely they have some idea of the kind of person that you’re likely to get along with, right? And, divorce rates for arranged marriages are shockingly low!
- Change your wardrobe. Even use a stylist to get some pieces into your wardrobe that are a little more exciting. Getting out of a wardrobe slump can help reignite your dating life too!
- Get a new hairstyle. Even the smallest change in our hair can make a huge difference, to both our appearance and our confidence, so give it a whirl!
- Go do something – anything – different. If you’re in a dating slump, it could be because you’re in a life slump too. Go for a weekend away, go horse riding, kayaking, rock climbing… just do something that you wouldn’t normally do. This will not only give you a chance to meet new people, but also makes for great conversation when you’re on dates.
- Understand that ebbs and flows are natural. And don’t beat yourself up over it, you’ll only make it worse.
- Relax. Are you starting to put too much pressure on yourself to find someone now? Yeah, well people can sense that and they’ll start to feel like they’re in an interview rather than on a date. It’s best to just take a deep breath and relax.
- Join a dating site. Always turned your nose up at dating sties? Well, there’s a lot of fish in that sea and you’re missing out on huge opportunity if you don’t dive in!
- Join a group. Check out meetup.com and join a group that shares your interests. This is a great way to meet someone, socialize and you know that you’ll have at least one thing in common with everyone there.
- Improve your social interactions. Get some books on sociology out, smile and make conversation with people you meet, keep eye contact and say “yes” more often.
