17 Signs Your Guy Is An Awesome Texter

Modern romance begins with a text. Whether you met at a bar or on a dating app, your first follow-up contact with him will probably be via SMS, so it’s important to know that your guy is good with his phone. Here’s how you can tell that a guy is a grade-A texter:

  1. He uses more than one word at a time. Your dude knows that “Hey,” “Heh,” and “Yeah” don’t even count. Rather than depending on single-syllable greetings and “LOL” placeholders, he puts thought into everything he types. No, he doesn’t need to write in verse or search his thesaurus for arcane words to impress you with. He just needs to show genuine interest in having a conversation.
  2. He spells and punctuates properly. Texting is quick and casual, but it says a lot when he takes an extra half-second to review his words or insert the appropriate apostrophes. He’s doing all he can to make a good impression and he knows damn well that nothing ruins a flirtatious message as fast as typing, “Your so beautiful.”
  3. He’s not generic. Hearing from him doesn’t mean receiving some late-night batch text. Nope—he wants to talk to you specifically. He uses your name. He tosses in an inside joke or two. He follows up to see how your dentist’s appointment went or to ask if you’ve picked out a birthday gift for your mom yet. In his eyes, you’re a complex, fully formed human, and he treats you as such.
  4. He asks follow-up questions. The details are important to him. If you mention that you kicked ass in your evening tennis match, he wants a play-by-play. If you say you’re into blues music, he wants to know which artists you would recommend. He’s doing everything he can to learn more about you.
  5. He can read between the lines. While nobody should be expected to read your mind, he comes pretty close. He’s so familiar with your rhythms that he can figure out the meaning in your tone, word choice, and length of response time. He knows when to offer more support and when to back off.  It’s a huge relief that you don’t have to explain every little thing.
  6. He asks for clarification to avoid misunderstandings. Text can be an awesome way to discuss important topics because it gives you both enough distance to avoid feeding off each other’s volatile emotions. But it can also be misinterpreted. When he’s not sure, he asks. He respects you way too much to jump to conclusions.
  7. He texts you before and after work. He likes to bookend each day with sweet messages to you. No matter how groggy you are when the alarm goes off or how stressed you are by the end of another crisis at work, you can count on his affectionate words to put a spring in your step.
  8. He apologizes sincerely if he leaves you hanging. Hey, it happens. He fell asleep after a long day. He got an unexpected call from his boss. If he’s unreachable for an unusual amount of time, he lets you know why before you even have to ask.
  9. He doesn’t blow up your phone when he knows you’re busy. You told him it’s girls’ night. He wants you to focus on your friends, so he resists the urge to bombard you with texts. No weird jealousy about who you’re with or what you’re up to. Your independence is a big part of why he adores you, after all.
  10. He keeps you up to date with his schedule. You don’t need to know where he is every waking moment, but it’s good to have heads up when he’s not going to be able to respond for a while—especially if you’re in the middle of a nice exchange. He’ll do whatever he can to make you feel secure and appreciated.
  11. He sends you pictures of things that remind him of you. Your phone has a whole album of quirky (and completely nonsexual) photos he snapped for you: a cute dog that reminded him of yours, a funny vanity license plate, the menu for a barbecue joint he’d like to take you to on Saturday. He goes way beyond lame mirror pics.
  12. He isn’t always naked in his selfies. Speaking of selfies, the man knows how to keep his clothes on. When he sends you a picture of himself, he’s not doing it to show off his physique. He’s smiling warmly and making eye contact with the camera. He wants you to know this is how he’d be looking at you if you could be together in person right now.
  13. His sexts are legit sexy. He really understands how your brain works and what turns you on. He takes his time seducing you, making you feel like a goddess. He pays attention to your responses and adjusts his approach accordingly. As much as you love being with him in person, you find these virtual sessions equally hot.
  14. He remembers stuff you texted him. Everybody is overburdened with technology these days, which makes his recall all the more impressive. He’s not just skimming through your words, he’s treating them like important info. He’s not just alleviating boredom, he’s communicating.
  15. He tries to get you in person as much as possible. No matter how great he is in words, if he never wants to be with you IRL, he’s blowing smoke. Not an issue with your guy. He understands that playing Romeo on the phone is no substitute for being physically present.
  16. He’s equally awesome in person. To be a truly great texter, he’s got to pass the in-person test. Your guy aces it—zero gap between his smartphone skills and his real-life charm. Thank goodness. Because honestly, is there anything worse than discovering that the boy you’ve been falling for onscreen is actually an illusion?
  17. You love hearing from him. Your mood instantly lifts when his name pops up on your phone. Whatever he’s written is guaranteed to be thoughtful, funny, and supportive. In a world of mixed messages, he means what he says, and he says it well. That’s nothing to LOL about.
Jackie Dever is a freelance writer and editor in Southern California. When she's not working, she enjoys hiking, reading, and sampling craft beers.