Sometimes it seems like we’re from different planets than the men in our lives. When it comes to relationships, it’s nearly impossible not to argue with each other because of our inherent differences, and the majority of the arguments stem from misunderstanding or miscommunication. The way that women interpret a conversation may be the complete opposite of how men do. Each party is sensitive towards specific topics. Given the situation, emotions can escalate quite quickly and all of a sudden, you find yourself raising your voice and slamming doors. Here are the things that can drive us women nuts about guys… but we love them, anyway.
- He says that he’ll call or text, but then forgets. Texting and smart phone technology in general have significantly changed the way we communicate. We’ve become entirely too dependent on texting as a quick and easy way of communication. And when it comes to waiting on a text from someone, it could single-handedly drive us mad. When our boyfriend tells us he’ll text us in a bit but then forgets to, we start losing our minds.
- He double-books you with other plans. Remember that birthday party you had told him about two weeks ago? Remember when he said he would go? Well, now it’s the night of the party and he just realized that he committed to other plans that same night. You really start to wonder how short of an attention span he has when he’s listening to you. You don’t want to be the one to make him choose, but in reality, you know you’re thinking, “You better not ditch me.”
- He tells you “you’re being crazy” the second you overreact. No girl likes being called crazy. Even hearing the words makes our blood boil. We just have strong reactions and even stronger emotions. We like to vocalize our feelings and make it known to our boyfriends about exactly what is bothering us in order for them to know for next time. Instead, our feelings and opinions are regarded as “crazy”. Yes, we may be just a little intense sometimes, but that doesn’t mean we want to hear it.
- He blames everything on PMS. Just because we might call you out for doing something we don’t like doesn’t mean it’s because of PMS. Yes, it is a two week long process, but we are entitled to our feelings regardless of if we are menstruating or not.
- He shuts you out emotionally. Despite our desperate attempts to pull emotions out of our boyfriends, it just doesn’t work that way. Men and women emotionally vent in different ways. While women tend to seek comfort in their friends or family, men typically become recluse and disconnect from others. Men like to be left alone in times of stress and difficulty. It’s one of the most frustrating things when we want to comfort him, but that’s just not what he needs or wants.
The next time your guy does one of these things, just remember that he’s most likely not doing it intentionally. He’s just being a guy and although it drives us nuts, try to keep the temper down. At the end of the day, you still love him for all the things he does right.
