You might say you’d never change for a guy, but what if it happens without you even realizing it? Often times, we end up shifting little things about ourselves to suit our partner or our relationship, and that won’t do you any good in the end. Here are 10 signs that you’re not yourself anymore and need to change back to who you were because you were amazing.
- Your friends have noticed that you’re different. Listen to your friends! They love you and want you to be who you are, not some carbon copy of the guy you’re dating. So, if they ask you if you’re okay or if they mention that you’ve changed a lot since getting with your guy, pay attention to their concern.
- You’re doubting what you used to like. You used to want to start your own business, build an empire, and travel more. But since dating this guy, you’re doubting if you should like or want those things. Look, it’s great to be open to other ideas instead of being limited to just one, but be careful that you’re not changing your dreams to suit the person you’re with.
- You’re stuck in your head. You need to be with someone who will listen to your thoughts and opinions, and you should feel comfortable expressing them with your partner. If you’re keeping everything inside your head so only you can be exposed to your thoughts, feelings, and opinions, you’re changing because you’re silencing yourself. It ain’t cool.
- You’re not feeling right. Since dating this guy, do you feel like you’re not really yourself? Or that something’s just “off” with you but you can’t really pinpoint what it is? It’s time to take some time for yourself to take stock of what’s going on because maybe you’re changing or you’re trying to make yourself feel happy in the relationship when you’re just not.
- You’re choosing his relationship goals. You want to be in a long-term relationship but your guy wants to keep things casual and chilled for now. Or perhaps he just doesn’t do labels. Ugh. If you’re ignoring what you want in the hope of making something work with this person, you risk getting your heart broken. Stick up for your relationship needs because without them, you won’t be happy. You’ll be settling.
- Your life looks very different. Since getting into a relationship with your partner, your life has completely changed. You’re hanging out with different people, going to different places, doing different hobbies on the weekend… While mixing it up can be a good thing because it makes you feel refreshed, don’t lose the life you had and what’s important to you! Those things matter.
- You bite your tongue a lot. If you’ve become a bit of a “yes” girl who wants to please her partner even though you’re not really keen on the things they want, you’re changing but trying to fool yourself into thinking it’s not really happening or that the change is for the greater good of the relationship. Stop convincing yourself that everything’s okay. If you can’t be yourself, you don’t even have a relationship. Besides, nothing is ever beneficial for the greater good of your relationship if you have to silence yourself or be a love martyr.
- You’re losing friends. If you find that the people who used to love being around you are now ignoring your calls or making excuses not to see you, that’s a sign something’s not right and the problem could be with you! This is especially the case if you know your friends aren’t toxic and wouldn’t just be acting shady with you out of the blue.
- You don’t care about things anymore. If you’ve made your relationship a priority to the point where you just don’t care about other things or people in your life, you might not even realize that you’re making your relationship everything and risking losing everything else that you’ve worked hard for. As amazing as your relationship is, it doesn’t mean that nothing else is important.
- You’re feeling anxious. Sometimes anxiety creeps in when your body’s trying to tell you that you’re doing the wrong thing. You’re ignoring your needs, perhaps, or you’re pretending to be something you’re not. Pay attention to the feeling. Anxiety is trying to tell you something important about yourself and what you need.
