I’ve Been The Single Girl A Long Time—And I’m Ready For A Change

I’ve always thought that there were two types of girls: single girls and girlfriends. I’ve mostly been the first one, and while I wouldn’t trade anything about my life, I do want to find my person. Even though I value my independence and I’m comfortable on my own, I still want a relationship.

  1. I’ve put in the work to get to know myself. Yup, I’ve been rolling solo for years, which has given me plenty of time to think about who I am, what I want, and how I’m going to get it. I’m not afraid to be alone nor do I base my worth on my relationship status or lack thereof. I’ve put in the work and now I’m ready to share my life with someone.
  2. I don’t get why I’m the only single girl. Okay, so obviously I’m not the only girl without a boyfriend but it feels like that, at least in my friend group. I don’t really understand why everyone has boyfriends and I don’t. It’s not like I don’t try or put myself out there. It’s truly a mystery, and it would be great to solve it sometime soon and actually be in a relationship.
  3. I want to make decisions with someone else in mind. Sometimes being single makes me feel super selfish. Everything is on my terms, for the most part: when I see friends, when I go away for the weekend when I chill out and watch TV. It would be really cool to be able to fit a partner into my schedule and make decisions as a couple.
  4. I want to finally bring a plus-one to parties. While I have no problem going to a friend’s birthday or holiday party alone, it does kind of suck seeing everyone having fun with their significant others. I would love to bring my own date along and share the experience with them. If going to parties is already a good time, I can only imagine how much better it would be with someone by my side.
  5. I want to know that years of bad dates have paid off. I’m all about the journeys in life. I love nothing more than hearing stories of success and learning how someone got to where they are today. It’s not like I blinked and met my perfect match without any time or effort at all—I’ve put in the time, met all kinds of different guys, and have thought long and hard about who I really want to be with. I definitely think that it’s time for me to find my person. 
  6. I’m capable of being loved. A friend recently called me “a catch” and while I might not go that far, I do know that I deserve to fall in love and be loved right back. It’s not like I’m a horrible person or have nothing to offer someone.
  7. I know that sometimes, the single life gets old. No matter how cool I am with Friday nights on my couch and focusing on work and seeing my friends whenever I want, I know that there is something missing. I have everything that I could ever want… except for love. And while I’m not going to cry or whine about it, I still want nothing more than to leave my single life in the rearview and start a new journey with the right guy.
  8. There are so many things that I want to experience. I want to go on an epic beach vacation with that special someone. I want to learn a new hobby with my boyfriend. I want to meet each other’s families and possibly even start our own. Sure, I might be cool with hanging out with myself, but I can’t do those things alone. 
  9. I don’t know why I haven’t found love yet. Okay, so I get the reasons—it’s hard to meet guys (and harder to meet guys I connect with) and this whole finding love thing takes time— but I feel totally ready for something real. Even though I’m cool with being single, I’m not going to stop wanting a boyfriend.
  10. I don’t see why having it all isn’t a thing. Since forever, people have debated the concept of work/life balance, and it always seems like wanting a career and a relationship are mutually exclusive. I don’t feel that way. I already have my dream job and now I just need the dream guy.
  11. I actually feel optimistic. I have my moments of being frustrated AF with dating and wanting to quit, but thankfully, those times are few and far between these days. I’m determined to find the right person and I know that I can… as long as I ignore how much dating sucks sometimes and as long I don’t stop. So I’m not planning on giving up anytime soon.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.