Finding my person is something I’ve been looking forward to since I was a child. I want to build a life with someone and make forever memories. I know that’s something I can’t rush so I’ll wait patiently. In the meantime, I’m going to work on myself and do things that’ll make me a better person and partner, like these:
- Date a lot of people I tend to go from one relationship to the next without taking time to enjoy being single. I’m a serial monogamist but I’ve decided to change. I’m going marvel in my singleness and date just for the sake of dating. Sure, I’d like to find my prince and get married, but right now, I just want to kiss a lot of frogs.
- Stop comparing myself Most of my friends have great careers, homes, and significant others who truly love them. I want all those things, but to get them, I need to focus on me and stop comparing myself to my friends. We’re different people on different journeys and I need to remember that.
- Decide how I want my future to look Do I want kids? Do I want to move somewhere new? Am I willing to compromise on my values? I need to know where my answers stand before I find my person. I don’t want to meet someone and adopt their opinions because I don’t have my own.
- Spend time solo You know those people who go to dinner by themselves? I want to be like them. I want to be comfortable leaving my home even when I don’t have a date. Whether that means traveling solo or going to parties without a plus-one, I want to spend time with myself and enjoy it.
- Avoid jealousy Jealousy is a fickle bitch and it’s time I avoid her. I’m going to stop following celebrities on IG as if their lives are obtainable. I’m going to stop letting my friends’ success bother me and just be happy for them instead. I’m going to check my jealousy at the door and stop walking around wishing I was different.
- Live in the moment I’ve never been a “YOLO” kind of person but I’m going to start taking chances and try not to overthink. I want to do things that scare me and if that means I have been a little reckless, so be it.
- Stop being so strict I’m going to throw away my book of must-haves. Instead of looking for a specific type, I’m going to look for guys who treat me well. Putting restrictions on my love life hasn’t helped me. In fact, it’s only stopped me from dating outside my comfort zone. I don’t want to miss out on someone special because I’m too stuck in my dating ways.
- Figure out my passions I have no idea what I want to do with my life and I desperately need to figure that out. Not just for my sanity, but for my future person’s sanity too. When I’m in a relationship, I want to be stable. I don’t want to be changing careers every five minutes.
- Build meaningful friendships I only have a handful of good friends, most of whom I went to high school with. They’re my support system and unfortunately, it’s difficult to stay connected. I’m going to work really hard to nourish these friendships now, so they’re in my life forever. When I finally find my partner, I want to make sure I have people who can help me navigate the ups and downs of that relationship.
- Forge myself into the person I want to be Who I am today isn’t who I want to be in a year or even a month. That’s why I’m going to stop ignoring my issues and work through them. I need to grow into the person I envisioned for myself, and that needs to happen before I become involved with another human.
- Make smart financial decisions I know the kind of life I want for myself and I want to make sure I can achieve it on my own. Would it be nice to marry a Kennedy? Of course, but I’m going to make plans to ensure I’m financially sound WITHOUT anyone’s help. I’m going to start budgeting, saving, and making smart decisions with my money so I can live my best life in five to 10 years.
- Fall in love This might sound weird, but I’ve only been in love once (maybe twice). Personally, I don’t think that’s enough experience. I need to fall in love a couple more times so I have a better idea of the personality I’m compatible with. I don’t want to end up with someone because I think their personality works with mine, I want to know it does. I can only know that with experience.
