Being Plus Size Doesn’t Make Me Unable To Get Laid

Being Plus Size Doesn’t Make Me Unable To Get Laid ©iStock/knape

Just because I don’t fit society’s standard of beauty doesn’t mean I’m not still hot as hell. Beauty is more than skin deep, and I’m pretty damn hot, even in these size 18 jeans. Being a woman of ample size doesn’t put a damper on my sex appeal whatsoever — and if any guy can’t see that, he’s definitely not worth my time.

  1. Being fat doesn’t mean I’m being unhealthy. And since when is “healthy” a metric for who we wanna bang, anyway? If everyone had to be in the peak of their health in order to be found sexy, cigarette smokers would never get laid. But even if that’s your reasoning, you’re wrong if you think fat means unhealthy. I’m a lot more on top of my health than a lot of my straight-sized friends. I have to be, because society won’t let me forget that my ample bod is offensive to their standards.
  2. Sexy doesn’t fit in a box. In fact, sex appeal comes in all shapes and sizes. The nature of human attraction is wide and varied and contains space for just about every kink, fetish, and favorite move out there! Why on earth would you subscribe to the narrow-minded belief that sexy only means skinny hips and a thirty-two inch waist? That just seems downright boring.
  3. Fat can still be fit. Sure, sex requires a certain level of athleticism. While it’s easy to assume a fat person might be lacking in that department, that’s really untrue. Bodies of all sizes can be fit and fabulous. Do people ask each other their mile run time before committing to hitting the sack? Unless you only want to have sex with world-class athletes, a fat person is just as ready to get down as a skinny one.
  4. Being plus size can lend an advantage. Don’t believe me? Let’s just say that having more body mass tends to make you more creative in bed, not more boring like some might think.
  5. Big is beautiful. I understand if you don’t feel that way. That’s fine. Personal preference will always vary — that’s why it’s personal. I know my body is big, and I know it’s beautiful. Both those things are capable of being true at the same time. I just won’t waste my energy on someone who doesn’t see that, too.
  6. More people might find me unable to get laid than you think. Honestly, I’m not concerned with whether the population at large thinks I’m hot. But if it’s a numbers game you’re after, consider that while men (and women) are conditioned to say they prefer a thin, able-bodied person in bed with them, that may not line up to their actual desires. I’ve been attracted to thin people and fat people, as well as people in between. That’s the neat thing about lust – it’s amenable to all sorts of sizes.
  7. At the end of the day, sex is sex. The exact dimensions of my body may not line up with the industry standard, but it’s still ready and raring to go. People of all different body types, age disparities, and ability levels enjoy sex on the regular. Being fat is no more an impediment to sexy times than any other difference in someone’s body might be.
Becca Rose is a writer with high hopes for her student loan debt. She's a musician and aspiring novelist, but don't ask her to write poetry, because she's terrible at it. She has written for HelloGiggles, The Toast, The Huffington Post, and more. You can find her on Twitter @bookbeaut