I was scrolling through Instagram’s ‘Explore’ page recently and I clicked on a photo of this half-naked girl lounging on a beach. Turns out, my boyfriend had ‘liked’ the pic. I didn’t think much of it until I discovered that he was doing this to a LOT of other women’s photos. What the hell?
He follows hundreds of other girls.
I’m talking 300+ accounts, most of which are girls. He did this before I met him but I thought once we started dating he would cool off on following sexual accounts. Nope! It’s still continuing and it makes me feel like I’m not worthy enough for him to stop needing to publicly engage with other girls on social media.
He likes the same girls’ pics regularly.
I’ve noticed he’ll like certain girls’ pictures more than others, usually when they’re wearing provocative clothing or just with their boobs out. This makes me feel like crap because who wants to be in love with a guy who publicly shows that he’s attracted to other women on a daily basis? I felt sick to my stomach when I realized that he likes loads of hot girls’ pictures when I’m not with him.
He can’t just look at it and move on?
Everyone finds other people attractive whether they’re in a relationship or not and that’s totally fine. You can be walking down the street and notice a hot person and move on and forget about it. My problem is that he’s openly liking and following all these girls and isn’t bothered who sees it—even me, his girlfriend. I get that people watch porn and look at whatever weird crap in their own spare time, but liking girls’ pictures on Instagram is like saying you want other people to see it and know that you find this girl attractive.
It’s so disrespectful to me.
I don’t know any girl who wants to be with a guy who likes other girls’ pictures all the time. The fact he doesn’t care if I see his Instagram activity shows a lack of respect and it makes me wonder if he’d rather be with one of those girls on Instagram than with me. I would never like and follow hot guys on Instagram because it’s hugely disrespectful to the guy I love, so why the hell is he doing it to me?!
It’s actually a major turn-off.
I’m so unattracted to him when I see that he’s looking at hundreds of hot girls every day. It makes me look at him in a different light and question if I really want to be in a relationship with a guy who’s looking at boobs and butts that aren’t mine all day. Can’t he just watch porn like everyone else?!
It’s extremely immature behavior.
I’d understand a teenager wanting to follow hot girls and sexy accounts, but as a grown man, how has he not grown out of that by now? Surely he’d be embarrassed to follow these accounts knowing his friends and family can see it, never mind his girlfriend? I felt like an idiot being with someone who follows hundreds of girls and likes all their sexy pictures.
I feel very self-conscious about my body because of it.
I’m not an Instagram model, I don’t have a perfect butt or big boobs and I’m not the girls in the pictures he’s liking. It makes me paranoid that he’s looking at my body and comparing me to these gorgeous girls he seems to like. It makes me doubt myself and my body, which no guy should ever make you do.
I’m scared to bring it up to him.
I’m not a jealous girlfriend; I’m really laid-back and open-minded, but this is one thing that’s starting to really grate on me and hurt my feelings badly. I don’t want to seem like a psycho by saying I’m not OK with him liking tons of girls’ Instagram pictures, but he’s in a relationship with me and having a wandering eye is something I’m not OK with.
It’s making me paranoid.
Being the detective that I am, I checked my ‘posts that friends have liked’ tab and he’d liked countless images of gorgeous women. I don’t usually stalk social media often but his behavior is making me want to check up on him to see what else he’s liked. I’ve never been paranoid about a boyfriend’s social media before and I shouldn’t have to be now.
I don’t know if I trust him as much anymore.
Is my boyfriend as open to talking to girls on nights out when I’m not there as he is to liking them on Instagram? Is he messaging these girls too? His Instagram activity is causing huge doubts in my head and making me think I don’t know the real him and what his intentions are.
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