I Can Do Badass On My Own, But I’d Rather Do It Alongside Someone Else

It can be tough to be alone sometimes. Yes, a true badass can hang whether solo or not, but I’m not all the way there. I have good days when I feel strong and then days where I just wish someone would hold me and make me feel better. I know I can survive on my own but I still want someone to share my life with.

  1. Independence doesn’t have to mean loneliness. I’ve always enjoyed being single and I’m proud that I get better at it as I get older. I’m coming into my own as a person and finally figuring out who I really want to be. I’m learning how to stand on my own as an individual whether I’m alone or in a partnership, but my aim is definitely to find a healthy long-term relationship eventually.
  2. I like my freedom but I wouldn’t have to sacrifice that for the right guy. There’s a tricky line to walk in relationships between codependency and retaining your individuality. It’s easier for me to be single sometimes because I don’t like to commit. I get scared and I push guys away. On the other hand, I have a lot of love to give the right man. I need to figure out how to maintain a relationship and my autonomy at the same time.
  3. I can take care of myself, but having someone to share the responsibility would be nice. I’ve never been the kind of girl who needs a man. I take care of myself. I pay my own way and my own bills and I’ve been doing so since I was still in college. I don’t even take money from my parents, let alone my boyfriends. I just don’t do it. I know that I can survive without a guy, but I long for the support and encouragement a great partner provides.
  4. It’s not about needing a guy, it’s about wanting a partner. The best relationships consist of two secure and mature individuals coming together and choosing each other. It’s a conscious decision to commit to that person and stick with them through thick and thin. I could technically go on forever this way, with no romantic partner, never getting laid, but it’s not all that fun — especially the never getting laid part. I’m content, but I could be happier.
  5. I want a fellow badass in my life. I’m still single because I’m waiting for someone who truly challenges and excites me. I’m not willing to compromise anymore. I’ve made enough bad choices in the past. This time it needs to be truly special and it needs to work. I’m no longer going to try to fit puzzle pieces together when they just won’t. It’s stupid. I can hang tough and stay single, but I hope I find the awesome man who complements me best.
  6. Even the strongest person could use some extra support and encouragement sometimes. I consider myself a fairly strong person. I’ve been through some crap and I’ve dealt with the majority of it on my own. I’m completely financially responsible for myself. I’m not looking for a guy who takes care of me in that way. However, it would be nice to have a partner so that we can support each other mentally and emotionally. I can take care of myself, and I’ve often had no choice but to do so, but it would be nice to have someone who helps with the hard stuff.
  7. I’m not superhuman. I can go on all day about how I’m not looking for a guy and how I’m happy being single and I wouldn’t be lying. The fact is that humans are complicated, and I can feel that way and still yearn for love at the same time. It doesn’t mean I’m going to date someone just to date. It means that I’m hopeful an amazing person comes around who thinks I’m amazing too. I’ll admit to my inner romantic wanting that happy ending.
  8. I want to give and receive special love. Love is special in and of itself, but I’m looking for something that uniquely fits me. I’m looking for the man who truly gets me and loves me for every facet of my being, regardless of my shortcomings and flaws. I’m looking for the man who I will love back in the same way. I can stand strong on my own, but I have a big heart and the desire to give some of that heart over to the right guy.
  9. I give a lot of love, but at the end of the day, I’m still sleeping alone. Luckily for me, I do enjoy sleeping alone. I like to spread out and take up space. Still, it gets old. I’d gladly give up some of that space for loving arms that make any day, however tough, suddenly feel like it was okay. I would love to lay my head on my partner’s chest and know that I’m fierce enough to handle anything because he’s by my side. If I feel strong now, I’ll feel invincible with a badass guy.
  10. I miss companionship sometimes, I admit it. It’s the little things. I miss the sweet gestures, the physical affection and having someone to talk to no matter what. I’m alone a lot, and while I enjoy my space, I do get lonely. It would be nice to have that person with whom I can share my deepest thoughts, hopes, dreams and fears. Just because I can go without the mushy stuff doesn’t mean that I want to.
  11. I don’t want just any guy; I want the right guy. I choose the badass move of remaining alone rather than using some random guy as a filler. I could get SOMEONE to date me, I’m sure, but what would be the point? My heart won’t be in it and that’s not fair to the dude either. I think that making the decision to stand strong on my own and live my life to the fullest regardless of whether I have a partner is the most badass thing I can do. I think I’ll look back and appreciate this time after I find my life companion.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.