Can You Stop Loving Someone? How to Move On When He Doesn’t Feel The Same

When you fall for someone, it’s only natural to hope that they’ll feel the same and you can ride off together into the sunset and live happily ever after. Sadly, that doesn’t always happen, and there’s probably going to come a time when you tumble head over heels for someone who just doesn’t feel the same. You know you need to move on because it’s never going to happen, but can you stop loving someone? If he’s not on the same page and you’re struggling to close the book on the romance you wish you had, here are some tips.

Acknowledge the truth: it’s never going to happen. Part of the reason it’s so hard to walk away from someone who doesn’t feel the same way we do is that there’s always a small little part of our brains holding out “just in case.” I mean, what if he suddenly realizes how amazing you are and wants to give a real relationship with you a shot? That constant nagging “what if” thought will keep you on the hook until you confront the truth, which is that it’s really never going to happen. Until you make that vital step, you’ll never be able to move on.

Unfriend, unfollow, delete. The fact that “can you stop loving someone?” is such a heavily Googled question shows just how hard it is to do so. What makes it worse is that we can never really get away from the object of our affection thanks to the internet and social media. Once you’ve admitted that it’s never going to happen, the next important step to take is to delete the guy from all your social media accounts. Then block them so you’re not tempted to stalk him when you get bored/lonely. Also, delete his number from your phone and remove all traces of him so that you don’t hold yourself back.

Give yourself time to grieve what never was. There’s nothing corny about admitting you were invested in a guy who ended up not feeling the same. You loved him and hoped to build a future with him and now that future will never come. There’s nothing wrong with mourning the loss of those dreams and the death of the feelings you once had for him. It’s a normal, healthy part of the process of moving on.

Think about what you need. There’s nothing worse than a relationship in which you don’t feel fulfilled and end up chasing someone who’s not giving you what you want and need. To move forward, you need to establish what it is you want and need in a relationship and from a partner. Identifying those things will go a long way in helping you get them in the future. Not only that, but it will also make you realize that this guy wasn’t the one for you because he never could have given you what you deserve.

Build a plan for the future. Think about all the things in your life that you want to do and the people you want to meet. Then get excited about it. So, this guy didn’t work out. So what? There are plenty of other guys out there and there will be one that is right for you. When that happens, that’s great – but your future will be bright regardless. Can you stop loving someone? Yep, and that’s just what you’re going to do.

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