I Caught My Partner Cheating With My Best Friend & Now We Have A Threesome Once A Month

About two years ago, I accidentally read a message from my best friend to my boyfriend in which she revealed that they’d had sex behind my back. Many tears and fights later, I now have a threesome with my best friend and my boyfriend once a month. Honestly, I couldn’t be happier. Here’s how we got here.

1. I decided to drop the resentment. Of course, I was livid at first. I yelled, I screamed, and I made everybody cry, including myself. Then I made my partner tell me what happened and then went back to my best friend to check their stories. I asked the same questions over and over again. To their credit, they always told the truth and never once refused to answer a question or tried to shut down the conversation. I feel this really helped me get over what happened because I was given the space to process my feelings.
2. I realized my biggest issue was my own insecurity. I was jealous, obviously. My BFF is hot—did my boyfriend like her better than me? Was she better at sex than me? What if he left me for her? These questions swam through my mind every single day and kept coming back no matter how much I tried to move on. Then I sat down and started answering those questions. What if he left me for her? I realized I was scared of being alone, so I worked on that. I’d be fine on my own before and could be again. Once I got comfortable with that, I felt a whole lot better about the entire situation.
3. I suggested having a threesome with my best friend to get revenge. During one of our screaming matches after I found out about their betrayal, I remember yelling something along the lines of, “If you get to have sex with her, so do I!” I meant to say that I should be able to have sex with someone else, but my best friend just looked at me, smiled, and said she’d be down with that. The comment made us all crack up laughing and totally diffused the tension in the situation. Nothing happened then, but the thought of sleeping with my best friend did cross my mind quite a lot over the following weeks.
4. I decided to forgive them. I love my partner more than anything in the world. That’s never changed, no matter how hurt or betrayed I felt by him. I never stopped wanting the best for him, never stopped wanting to be close to him. I made him sleep in the guest bedroom for a while after I found out about his cheating, but eventually, I realized I was crying myself to sleep because I missed him and not because I was hurt. I decided I needed to forgive him so we could move forward.
5. As cliche as it sounds, communication really was key. I eventually told my boyfriend that my best friend’s offer to have sex with me was still on my mind. He was shocked at first but said that he’d be into it as long as he could watch. Having just been through something that could have easily been the end of us, we had to set some rules. We decided that if she was into it, we’d have a threesome—there’d be no more sneaking around behind each other’s back. We discussed this as a group for several months until we were sure we’d figured out the perfect arrangement.

Having a threesome with my best friend was revolutionary

1. I’d never really looked at her that way before, but man, my best friend is hot. Attraction is important when it comes to sex, and my best friend is definitely hot. I’d seen her without clothes on before, so I knew she had a great body, but the first time I saw her naked in a sexually loaded situation… wow. I feel lucky to get to be with her and fortunately, she feels the same about me.
2. My attraction to my boyfriend is stronger than ever too. Before all of this happened, my boyfriend and I had a very healthy sex life. We could always turn each other on with just one look, and that hasn’t changed. Do you have any idea how annoying it is when you’re yelling and fighting and he gives you that look so you get turned on but have to turn him down because you’re angry at him? Thankfully, now that everything’s out in the open, that doesn’t happen much anymore.
3. Together, they turn me on more than I thought possible. Everybody was a bit worried about what would happen the first time I saw them kiss. That worry was all for nothing though because first, she kissed me, then my partner kissed me, and when I saw them kissing each other, my lingerie basically flew off on its own.
4. I really like the sex. The sex is really good. Sex with my boyfriend is great, but there’s something about a female body that’s just so soft and sensual and touchable. Combining the softness of her body with the hardness of his, to feel her sensual lips moving on my skin while he kisses me… I won’t start an erotic story here, but you get the idea.
5. I like it, they like it, we’re happy. What else is there? In the end, I know that there are people who will judge us for having a threesome with my best friend and boyfriend. Some people will say I should have dumped him or forbade him to ever see her again, and maybe I should have. However, I’m happy with our arrangement and so are they. What’s wrong with that Nothing. As long as we’re on the same page, it’s all good.