We Could’ve Had Something Incredible, But You Never Gave Us A Chance

It’s not often you find someone who seems to be absolutely perfect for you, but I thought we’d found that in each other. Instead of trying to make something amazing happen, though, you decided to come up with every excuse under the sun to keep us from taking this as far as it could go. Here’s why I have no doubt that you royally messed up by letting me go:

  1. There won’t be another one like me. I know that you said you wanted to wait until the time was right, but I also know that was just your way of seeing if anyone better was out there. I refuse to be someone’s backup plan. I know how great I am, and if you can’t see that, then I’ll move on. But when you realize that I was one of a kind, you’ll be sorry.
  2. Once I’m done, I’m done. Eventually, you’ll figure out that you messed up. Unfortunately for you, when I move on, I move on for good. If I’ve already grieved our relationship, you can bet I won’t be opening the wound again anytime soon. So before you realize you royally messed up and come crawling back to me, just don’t.
  3. I make a damn good girlfriend. It’s not conceited if it’s a fact, right? I’m thoughtful AF and I know it. I can tell just what you need to make you happy on a bad day, and I’ll go out of my way to do it for you. I’ll bring you coffee at work, take you out to dinner, or rent your favorite movie. Too bad you never gave me the chance to show you.
  4. I cared about you so much. When you have me, you have me, and if I love you, I’ll do anything for you. You had me wrapped around your finger. I would’ve gone to hell and back with a smile for you. In fact, I did, but you didn’t seem to notice.
  5. I’m independent. If we’re in a relationship, you never have to worry about me because I’m doing my own thing. I’ve got my career, my friends, and my family. I’m not here to take your money or ruin your time with your buddies. That means the only thing I need from you is love, but it also means that I’d die before letting myself fall for you again after you threw it away.
  6. I don’t play games. I’m not the type of girl who makes things complicated just for the hell of it. I’m not the type of person to say “I’m fine” when I’m not. Nowadays, it’s a rarity to find someone who’s so straightforward, and you just gave it up.
  7. Our friendship is now ruined. When you didn’t want to give me a chance, one of the excuses you had was that you didn’t want to ruin the friendship we already had. Guess what? It’s already ruined. What could’ve been an amazing relationship has now turned into two strangers who once knew everything about each other. How’s that for a happy ending?
  8. I left with no regrets, but I can’t say the same for you. I put everything on the line. I told you exactly how I felt and what I wanted. When it came time for you to do the same, you bailed. I got to leave with no regrets, with nothing left unsaid, but I doubt you can say the same for yourself.
  9. I’m over it. As much as I loved you, I make it a point not to stick around for people who don’t want me in return. I’m not into wasting any time in my life. So when you ended it before it even started, I moved the hell on. Now, if you come back to me wanting to give us a shot, it’ll be a hard pass.
  10. In five years, you’ll be wondering what could’ve been. We all see better with a little retrospection. When you’ve grown up and can finally see clearly, you’ll start to wonder what could’ve been with us. I can guarantee that I’ll be living my dream life by then and won’t be wasting a single thought on you.
Piper Ryan is a NYC-based writer and matchmaker who works to bring millennials who are sick of dating apps and the bar scene together in an organic and efficient way. To date, she's paired up more than 120 couples, many of whom have gone on to get married. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, Time Out New York, The Cut, and many more.

In addition to runnnig her own business, Piper is passionate about charity work, advocating for vulnerable women and children in her local area and across the country. She is currently working on her first book, a non-fiction collection of stories focusing on female empowerment.