Why You Should Date A Girl Who Has Trust Issues

Why You Should Date A Girl Who Has Trust Issues ©iStock/AzmanL

When a woman has been been screwed repeatedly, it only makes sense that she’d have trust issues when it comes to relationships. Because of that, she needs a man who understands what she’s been through, doesn’t judge her and is willing to put in the work to help her get over her wariness. What does he get in return? Plenty. Here’s why dating a girl with trust issues is totally worth it:

  1. She’ll always be upfront and straightforward. She knows what it feels like to be lied to, so she’d never do it to you. For her, lying is an ultimate smack in the face and a true indicator of a person who doesn’t know how to be real. She believes in being upfront and honest, even if the truth hurts. She knows that being lied to hurts way more.
  2. She’ll never be shady. Trust issues cause a person to overanalyze and question absolutely everything, and she has no use for shadiness. She spends so much time trying to figure out if other people are being sneaky and underhanded that she just doesn’t have the time or the heart to be sneaky herself.
  3. She knows what it means to be loyal. There will never be a moment when you have to wonder what she’s doing when she’s out without you. Acting in any way that doesn’t imply “I’m taken” is not happening. She’s seen it too many times and she values loyalty because of that.
  4. She’ll never cheat on you. If she didn’t want to be with you, she wouldn’t be. Since she is, you’re the only person she’ll want, and if that ever changes, you can be sure she’d communicate that rather than looking for someone else behind your back.
  5. She’s completely real — what you see is what you get. Being fake or avoiding confrontation is just not in her repertoire. She knows that the only way to have a strong and lasting relationship is by being totally and completely herself, and she’ll expect the same from you. She doesn’t want to waste your time or hers with anything that’s not 100 percent real.
  6. She won’t get mad when you ask questions. Why? Because she’s asking them all of the time and knows what it feels like to be insecure. To her, this is an indication that you’re scared of losing something valuable, and she gets it. While she won’t spend your entire relationship reassuring you, she’ll have more patience than most for these types of insecurities.
  7. She knows how to communicateIf she’s having doubts or is upset about something, she’ll tell you because she knows the value of communication and wants to work things out like adults. If you don’t talk openly with one another, there’s no chance in keeping your relationship strong, and that’s really what she wants.
  8. She won’t let other guys cross boundaries with her. It’s important to her to have boundaries because she knows what it feels like to date someone without them. She’ll never openly let guys hit on her or go too far with a friend that is supposed to be just a “friend.” Disrespecting you in that way is not something she’s cool with, and she’ll hold you to the same standards.
  9. She’ll stand up for your relationship. When other girls come at you, she’ll make sure they know who she is because she believes in the relationship and respects it. Sure, it’s insecurity, and she should probably let you handle it first, but doesn’t it feel good to have someone who cares so much about what the two of you have built?
  10. She’ll be the one person you can trust completely. She’ll be someone you can tell secrets to and count on, no matter what. You can trust that she’ll never screw you over and she will always be honest with you. You’ll be able to build a relationship with her based on realness and respect. It’ll probably be the best relationship you ever have.
Kasandra Lynn is a freelance writer and blogger living in a small town. She is an aspiring novelist with a BA in English, has completed 2 novels, writes for multiple non-profit organizations and gets her blog, FairlyChic.com, published in a weekly column for her local newspaper.