If You’re Dating One Of These Guys, You’re Better Off Single

Are you ready for real, lasting love? Are you tired of the same old crap time and time again? If you want to find something genuine, you have to heed the warning signs. Be careful and keep your eyes open so that you know which guys are worth it — these ones definitely aren’t.

  1. The one who doesn’t make the first move. If you’ve made it quite clear that you’re interested and available, there’s no reason for him to keep stalling. This is a sign of what’s to come — he’ll be lazy, unmotivated, and selfish. Even if he’s shy, he should be able to tell that you’re basically begging him to ask you out. Passive men are no bueno in relationships.
  2. The one who doesn’t call. Okay, so he has your number but he doesn’t use it. WTF? Why even bother getting it in the first place? Don’t get impatient and end up doing all the work for him, and don’t get into some long, pointless text message conversation. He needs to pick up the phone, call you, and ask you on a date like an adult. If he doesn’t, move on.
  3. The one who treats you like you’re ordinary. Sometimes, the single life gets frustrating. It can be tempting to settle for something less than amazing, but don’t do it. Be patient and hold out for the man who sees how wonderful you are. He’s out there even if you don’t believe it sometimes. A man who treats you like you’re average is doing so because he’s the average one.
  4. The one who just doesn’t try. He doesn’t work very hard at anything in life, and this carries on into your interactions with him. You always end up feeling discouraged and frustrated. He doesn’t seem to want to do anything very badly, including dating you. That makes you feel like crap. Don’t subject yourself to it.
  5. The one who is embarrassed to show affection. Your man should be proud as hell to have you in his life. If even mild PDA bothers him, you should move on. There’s nothing gross about holding hands or hugging. If he’s pushing you away every time you try to show him some love, stop giving him any at all. He doesn’t deserve it.
  6. The one who’s too cool for you. You know this guy. He’s the one who always acts put off when you reveal your inner nerd and doesn’t “get” anything that’s not trendy. You can’t be yourself with him because you feel judged. You can’t relate to him because he’s basically not a real person. Go find a guy who has some freaking depth and character.
  7. The one who doesn’t know himself. He’s not necessarily a bad guy, he just doesn’t get it yet, and maybe he never will. You want a dude who is comfortable with and understands who he is. Otherwise, how can he accept and understand you? Don’t settle for a blandly nice but emotionally unavailable individual. He won’t make you happy.
  8. The one who doesn’t want to be better. That really says it all, doesn’t it? A man who isn’t interested in his own growth and development is a stagnant partner. You should find someone who wants to be better not only for himself but for everyone around him. If he’s unconcerned with change and considers himself perfect already, he’s not perfect for you.
  9. The one who doesn’t share your dreams. There are a few fundamental elements of a successful relationship. One of them is finding a partner who wants a similar future. If he envisions himself settling down in a stable, calm life with a couple kids and you want to roam the world child-free, it obviously isn’t going to work. Be realistic and part ways if you realize that your goals just don’t match up.
  10. The one who abuses you. Whether it’s physical, mental, or emotional, you should never tolerate any abuse. Be careful and recognize it when you see it. It can be all too easy to fall into a situation you never saw coming and feel trapped. Stand up for yourself and be wary — you have to take care of your well-being.
  11. The one who has no sense of humor. Ugh. Seriously, who wants a joyless relationship? That’ll get old real quick. Laughing together can be one of the best ways to get through tough times. If he can’t make you giggle, or even worse, takes himself way too seriously, bow out early. There’s just no point.
  12. The one who can’t admit he’s wrong. Think about it. You’re going to end up fighting eventually, and you can’t get anywhere in an argument with someone who thinks he’s always right. What a pain in the ass. Don’t even bother. His refusal to admit fault is a telling sign of his immaturity and arrogance.
  13. The one who’s selfish. One of the grossest and most common qualities of the modern dude is selfishness and self-absorption. Don’t waste a second of your time with a man who displays these tendencies. You’ll end up miserable and repulsed by his narcissistic attitude. You should be with someone as caring and compassionate as yourself.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.