The Dating Struggles Of Women Who Are Always Busy

The Dating Struggles Of Women Who Are Always Busy

When you’re a woman who’s constantly on the go, dating is a massive challenge. We want someone to come home to at night, and someone to continue the journey of life with. Unfortunately, getting to that point can be difficult when we’re always crazy busy.

  1. We’re not the “last minute plans” type. If you text us at 2 pm wanting to see us at 6, sorry, but it’s probably not going to happen. Our calendars are usually booked solid, so no, we probably can’t meet up for a random drink, and no, you can’t stop by to watch a movie. We’d love to hang out, but please plan in advance. We do well with notice.
  2. Spontaneous sleepovers can mess up our schedules. When things are going well and you ask us to spend the night, we’ll probably say yes, but don’t be offended if we get up at 6 a.m. and leave your apartment. It’s not that we’re not into you,, it’s that we have a ton of stuff to do the next day.
  3. We can’t give big chunks of time up front. When we meet our dates for dinners, shutting down the restaurant with laughter and conversation would be great… if we had the time. If we seem to be cutting things shorter than you had hoped, it’s not a sign that the date went horribly. It’s likely that we’re on to our next thing or home to bed to rest up for another crazy day ahead.
  4. Men think we’re uninterested or playing a game. If the guys we’re into don’t think we’re flat out uninterested, they think we’re “playing hard to get” or playing a game when we dodge dates they suggest. When we tell you our schedules, we hope that you’ll be able to make plans with us in the spaces we’ve told you we’re free. We’re not playing any game, that’s just how it is. It’s as simple as that.
  5. We’re not good at going with the flow. That sounds like a nice idea, but it doesn’t always work for us. Our schedules are pretty precise, so as much as we want to go with this flow everyone seems to be in favor of, it’s just not built into our nature. We like structure and organization.
  6. Not knowing where the relationship is going drives us crazy. When we date someone we actually like and we’ve been out with a few times, we’ll start to get anxiety about where things are going. It’s not that we want to rush things, we just need to know if we need to make time in our schedules to continue to grow this budding relationship. Are we doing this thing or not? Let us know, because if not, we’ve got stuff to do.
  7. Cancellations are turn-offs and sometimes dealbreakers. Nothing annoys us more than last minute cancellations of plans. If you’re sick or there was some type of legitimate emergency, that’s cool, but otherwise, we’re legitimately frustrated, so don’t be surprised if we’re not enthusiastic about rescheduling.
  8. We need confirmation of plans. It’s not that we’re control freaks, it’s just that we’re actually busy and want to be sure everything is still a go. Chances are, we have a busy work life that we balance with our social calendars, everyday life responsibilities, and maybe even a dedicated fitness routine. Because of this, we treat our dates like appointments and we need to confirm they’re still happening.
  9. Lateness seriously annoys us. If you’re not on time, we’re totally judging you. Not just because you just cut into the time we’ve scheduled to spend with you, but also because lateness is just plain rude.
  10. We hate wasting our time. Because our time is precious and we don’t have a lot of it so if we’ve made some for you and it doesn’t work out, we feel genuinely defeated until we bring ourselves to try the struggle all over again.