The Dating Struggles Of Women Who Are Always Busy

Dating is tough for everyone, but when you’re a woman who’s always busy, it’s an even bigger challenge. We want someone to come home to at night and someone with whom we can build an even better life. Unfortunately, getting to that point can be difficult when we barely have time to breathe, let alone build a relationship with someone. Argh!

  1. We’re not the “last minute plans” type. If you text us at 2 p.m. wanting to see us at 6, sorry, but it’s probably not going to happen. Our calendars are usually booked solid, so no, we probably can’t meet up for a random drink, and no, you can’t stop by to watch a movie. We’d love to hang out, but please plan in advance. We do well with notice.
  2. Spontaneous sleepovers can mess up our schedules. When things are going well and you ask us to spend the night, we’ll probably say yes, but don’t be offended if we get up at 6 a.m. and leave your apartment. It’s not that we’re not into you, it’s that we have a ton of stuff to do the next day.
  3. We can’t give big chunks of time upfront. This is something you’ll have to accept when dating busy women. When we meet our dates for dinners, shutting down the restaurant with laughter and conversation would be great… if we had the time. If we seem to be cutting things shorter than you had hoped, it’s not a sign that the date went horribly. It’s likely that we’re on to our next thing or home to bed to rest up for another bonkers day ahead.
  4. Men think we’re uninterested or playing a game. If the guys we’re into don’t think we’re flat-out uninterested, they think we’re playing hard to get or playing a game when we dodge dates they suggest. When we tell you our schedules, we hope that you’ll be able to make plans with us in the spaces we’ve told you we’re free. We’re not playing any game, that’s just how it is. It’s as simple as that.
  5. We’re not good at going with the flow. That sounds like a nice idea, but it doesn’t always work for us. Our schedules are pretty precise, so as much as we want to go with this flow everyone seems to be in favor of, it’s just not built into our nature. We like structure and organization.
  6. Not knowing where the relationship is going drives us nuts. When we date someone we actually like and we’ve been out with a few times, we’ll start to get anxious about where things are going. It’s not that we want to rush things, we just need to know if we need to make time in our schedules to continue to grow this budding relationship. Are we doing this thing or not? Let us know because if not, we’ve got stuff to do.
  7. Cancellations are turn-offs and sometimes dealbreakers. Nothing annoys us more than last-minute cancellations of plans. If you’re sick or there was some type of legitimate emergency, that’s cool, but otherwise, we’re legitimately frustrated, so don’t be surprised if we’re not enthusiastic about rescheduling. This may seem like a downside of dating busy women, but that’s how it goes.
  8. We need confirmation of plans. It’s not that we’re control freaks (though we may be) it’s just that we’re actually busy and want to be sure everything is still a go. Chances are, we have a busy work life that we balance with our social calendars, everyday life responsibilities, and maybe even a dedicated fitness routine. Because of this, we treat our dates like appointments and we need to confirm they’re still happening.
  9. Lateness seriously annoys us. If you’re not on time, we’re totally judging you. Not just because you just cut into the time we’ve scheduled to spend with you, but also because lateness is just plain rude. If we can get to the date on time, so can you. Barring an actual emergency, there really is no excuse for not respecting our time.
  10. We hate wasting our time. Because our time is precious and we don’t have a lot of it. So if we’ve made some for you and it doesn’t work out, we feel genuinely defeated until we bring ourselves to try the struggle all over again. We know that not every date is going to be a winner and that we have to put ourselves out there, but that doesn’t make it sting any less when we hit a wall.