Here’s How To Completely Turn Off A Strong, Independent Woman

Just because you’re a strong, independent woman doesn’t mean you don’t also want to find love. Unfortunately, finding a guy that’s on your level  is harder than it sounds, and you probably end up with more dating disasters than most. If a guy wants to totally turn you off, he’ll do any of these things:

  1. He texts you 24/7, even while you’re at work.The best way to completely turn you off is to attempt to come between you and your career. You’ve worked her entire life to realize your professional dreams, and you won’t allow anyone to dismantle everything you’ve built. Also, even if you’re not at work, you need personal space and you won’t hesitate to block his number in order to get it.
  2. He sends angry or passive aggressive texts when you don’t answer immediately.If he wants to ensure that you never speak to him again, he should go ahead and get bent out of shape when you don’t answer quickly enough for his liking. He should let you know that he demands your full attention, so that you can quickly block him and move on with your day.
  3. He gets jealous of your friends, especially if some of them are guys. Jealousy isn’t cute or romantic when it goes as far as attempting to break up friendships. Strong women know that friendships can’t be ignored in favor of romantic relationships because friendships are a constant source of support while romantic relationships are always a variable.
  4. He guilts you into hanging out with him, even if you had other plans. Strong women don’t take well to attempted guilt trips, so that’s a nice quick way to get rid of you forever. You know that your schedule and recreation are your decision, and no one has the right to take that away.
  5. He tells you that his future wife will be a stay-at-home mom.Taking your career seriously is a part of being independent; you don’t want to rely on anyone to pay your bills or have to ask a guy for money every time you want to go have some fun (plus, not all women want kids). If he threatens your independence, he’s gone.
  6. He gives you unsolicited fashion advice.When you step out ready for a night on the town, instead of telling you that you look beautiful, he critiques your outfit. Bonus points if he implies that you’re dressing too provocatively or makes snide comments about being too sexy. Sure, you’ll change back into your yoga pants… and never date him again.
  7. He tells you that your opinions are wrong.It’s important to be respected and for your voice to be heard. By attempting to invalidate your opinions, he makes it abundantly clear that he has absolutely no respect for you (or any other woman) and you won’t waste any more time on that kind of a-hole.
  8. He asks if you’re on your period when you’re legit sad or mad.When taking this approach, he’s also running the risk that he may get punched in the face and/or kneed in the groin, but it’ll definitely be successful in making you never speak to him again.
  9. He constantly changes the topic to sex, regardless of what you’re talking about.Bonus points if he includes unsolicited penis pics! When you ask what he thinks of the election and, instead of an intelligent reply, you get eye-assaulted by an unexpected image of his junk, you’ll quickly add his number to the block list.
  10. He insists on paying for dinner, then implies that you “owe” him.He should feel privileged that he even gets to go on a date with you. You like to pick up the check (or at the very least, pay your half), but you’re not so stubborn that you won’t allow a guy to pay if he really wants to. If he does, but then implies that you owe him sex or even a second date, he can GTFO.
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible. You can find her on Instagram @mrsyonkdogmom or on her Facebook page.