I Didn’t Think There Were Any Good Guys Left Until You Came Around

I wasn’t used to guys like you, and when you first came around, I had my doubts and reservations. I was so used to guys who never called when they said they would, tried to get me into bed without knowing anything about me, and  didn’t even have the decency to tell me to my face that they weren’t into me anymore — they’d just disappear into oblivion instead. Then you showed up.

  1. You made a genuine effort to get to know me. First dates aren’t a foreign concept to me, but our beginning was so much different. You not only listened intently as I told you about who I am, you also asked questions of your own that didn’t revolve around sex or raunchy flirtation in an effort to know me deeper. You didn’t push, judge, or ridicule me on any level. You simply treated me like a real human being you wanted to know better.
  2. You showed me that you care not just with words, but with actions, too. It wasn’t just the reassurances you gave me with your words; it was also in the way you took an interest in putting a smile on my face in the simplest ways. It’s the way you still open my car door for me months later, or the way you set out a wine glass and a fresh bottle after I’ve had a hard day that shows me how much you truly care about me.
  3. For the first time in a long time, my player radar is silent. I’ve always been able to read guys pretty early on and used to know right away if something wasn’t right. With you, there were no red flags. There were no gnawing gut sensations telling me to run, and there was no anxiety about where things were heading. I knew who I was to you because you showed me — and continue to show me — each and every day.
  4. You reciprocate my efforts and actually appreciate my thoughtfulness. When I do something thoughtful for you, you appreciate it sincerely and don’t use it as a scapegoat to call me clingy, needy, or scary, like so many guys before you. Instead, you recognize that I’m simply being myself and making a genuine effort. Not only do you appreciate me, you also reciprocate the effort like two people should to in order for the relationship to flourish further. I can’t tell you how much it means to me after being treated like crap for so long before.
  5. I know how rare you are, and for that, I’ll never take you for granted. Guys like you don’t come around often, so I want you to know how special you truly are to my world. You’re the first guy who’s actually shown me exactly what it should feel like to be loved and to be in love all the way. I know you have a past of your own that’s less than pleasant and that some women before me have left their own ugly footprints on your heart, but I promise you that with me, I’ll never cease to appreciate your value.
  6. You’ve made every bad experience worth it. I’ll admit that for a while there, I was in a very dark place. I couldn’t make sense of the horrible experiences I kept having over and over again. I cried, I yelled, I isolated myself, and I closed off the heart of mine I didn’t think could ever truly open up again… until you. Now, the horrors I felt before seem like a story I once read about a character I can’t relate to. You wiped my sad chapters clean.
  7. I’m no longer a prisoner of my past. I no longer feel the anguish and disgust I used to feel about the ways I was wronged in my own past. I don’t feel a drop of hate or despair for the endless heartaches I used to focus so heavily on. I don’t know how you did it, but I thank you for freeing me from my own tortured mind.
  8. Sometimes I still can’t believe you’re here. Waves of shock still come over me when I wake up and roll over to see you sleeping peacefully next to me. I was the perpetually single girl seemingly without a prayer, so forgive me if sometimes I’m still awestruck by the fact that you’re actually a reality I never thought would come. Only this time, no pinch will wake me up from this dream. You’re actually a real thing, and it’s hard to believe at times.
  9. I trust you completely. It’s been a long time since anyone was as close to me as you are today. I wasn’t sure I would ever get here again, but you made things so easy. You love me for who I am, and you show me every single day just how important I am in your life. You plan the future with me. You’re proud to be with me. You’re grateful for the love and friendship we share. For some reason, I know you’ll never hurt me and that for the first time in a long time, I can trust someone 100 percent with my heart.
  10. I love you. I always knew I wanted to find love again, but nothing could ever have prepared me for the asteroid that is you that collided into me without warning and warmed up the love I thought had run cold in my veins. The level of love I have for you is intense, unique, rare, and indestructible. You’re the guy. You’re the guy who actually stepped up to the plate to be with me, and for that, I love you even more.