As much as people like to deny it, physical attraction is extremely important in a relationship. However, some guys think that’s all they need to land the girl of their dreams. I’d be lying if I said if I didn’t like dating attractive guys as much as the next girl, but this is why your looks will get you nowhere with me if you’re a jerk:
- Looks fade, but personality is for life. If we’re lucky, we’ll all make it to the point where we’re old, wrinkly, and saggy eventually. You might have a chiseled jawline and great biceps now, but at some point, you and I will both stop being the attractive young people we are today. Your personality, though, will always be a part of you if you don’t make a conscious effort to change it. I’m not going to stick around with you on the off-chance that you’ll suddenly decide to be a decent human being just so I can get you naked right now.
- Being a jerk automatically makes you less attractive. Just as a moderately attractive guy can become super hot if he turns out to be a great person, a ridiculously good-looking guy immediately loses his appeal if he reveals that he’s a crappy human being. I instantly lose my lady hard-on the moment a guy starts trying to put me down or says something nasty about another person. Once you’ve hit that point, not even your dazzling smile will be enough to save you.
- No amount of sex appeal can outweigh douchebaggery. There is literally no one on this planet whose hotness is worth putting up with a crappy personality. Many of my former celebrity crushes are now repulsive to me because I found out that they were jerks when they weren’t in character, and the same thing will happen to you if your true colors turn out to be a lot uglier than your face.
- Kindness can be just as hot as a six-pack. If your appearance is so-so, but your personality is a 10/10, I’ll always pick you over the hot guy who makes too many sexist “jokes.” Maybe I’ve just encountered too many jerks in my dating life, but these days, I’m way more excited about meeting a genuinely nice guy than meeting a guy who could get a job as an underwear model.
- I’m dating you, not your selfies. Even if your photos make my jaw go a little slack, they’re just images. If good looks were all it took to form a solid relationship, we’d be set, but I need someone I can talk to without wanting to punch him in the face.
- There are plenty of cute guys who are decent people. Don’t start thinking that you’re a gem because of how you look — there are lots of men out there who are both attractive AND nice. You might believe that you’re irresistible, but the truth is that without a good heart, you’re nothing special. I’m not missing out by deciding not to date you. I go for personality above all else, and I guarantee that if I looked hard enough, I could find someone who’s attractive both inside and out.
- A pretty face is nice, but not the most important thing. If people were ice cream sundaes, personality would be the ice cream and looks would be the hot fudge on top. Yeah, pretty eyes and a fit body make things better, but if you’re an jerk, you just end up with a sloppy mess without any substance. If you think you can coast through dating because you’re cute, you’ve got another thing coming.
- Attractive players can be found anywhere. Trust me — I’ve encountered more than a few of them in my lifetime. Your good looks don’t make you some kind of human unicorn, and I promise you that if I were aiming for a sexy jerk, I’d never run out of options.
- I don’t reward asinine behavior. Even if I felt like I could tolerate your piss-poor mannerisms, my conscience wouldn’t let me. I don’t believe in giving people what they want when they don’t deserve it, and that applies no matter how hot you are. Whether you want a full-fledged relationship or just a one-night stand, it’s not going to happen if you’re a jerk.
- It’s your loss, not mine. Way too many good-looking guys out there think that their appearance alone makes them a catch. The truth, though, is that no one ever really regrets turning down a jerk when he reveals who he really is. You can preach all you want about how I “missed out,” but if your looks are all you have to offer, then you’ll figure out soon enough that I’M “the one who got away” in this situation.
