Is He Ever Going To Be Your Boyfriend? 15 Signs The Answer Is ‘No’

It’s obvious you’re interested, but is he? All you want to know if he wants to be your boyfriend. I hate to give you the bad news, but sometimes a guy just isn’t into you. He might want to be friends, but that’s it. I know you think you can change his mind, but while you’re busy doing that, you could be missing out on his hot friend who actually does want to date you. If you experience these signs, consider him a lost cause and move on.

It’s always group time. 

Have you tried to get him alone? It’s amazing that no matter hard you try, there’s always other people around. Since he’s not interested in you as a girlfriend, he just brings all his friends along. If he doesn’t want to hang out alone, he’s definitely not interested.

He only wants to hook up. 

Maybe he actually does want to spend time alone with you, but only at 3 AM in the middle of the week. In case it’s not obvious already, he only sees you as a hookup. He has no intention of committing. Enjoy the sex until you find a better guy.

He refers to you as his little sister. 

It’s not unusual for male friends to think of their female friends as sisters. Unless he’s a pervert, he’s never going to want to date someone he considers his sister. This is a sure sign you’ve been friend zoned permanently. It might change in rare cases, but I wouldn’t count on it.

He tells you point blank. 

There’s no clearer sign that he’s never going to be your boyfriend than when he says it. If you keep pressing the issue, he’s going to just start avoiding you completely. Respect his wishes and don’t get obsessive.

He tries to hook you up with his friends. 

Just because he doesn’t want to be with you, it doesn’t mean he’s blind. Any great guy friend does what he can to find a good woman for his friends. Believe me, if a guy’s interested in you, he’s not going to play matchmaker. Try dating his friends. What do you really have to lose?

He doesn’t care if you ignore him. 

One popular way to get a guy to kill to be your boyfriend is to ignore him and make sure you’re always busy. If he doesn’t care if you’re ignoring him, then he’s not interested. He may not even think of you as a friend. Try it and if it doesn’t work, accept he’s not boyfriend material.

He’s not jealous when you flirt with other guys. 

A guy might seem oblivious until you flirt with other guys in front of him. If he’s the least bit interested, he’ll get jealous. Trust me, you’ll notice. If it’s not meant to be, he won’t care. He might even encourage you or play wing man.

Contact is sporadic at best. 

When it comes to their friends, guys don’t have any set rules about contact. With a girlfriend or even a potential girlfriend, they know to respond to calls and texts quickly and try not to go more than a few days without talking. If he has no interesting in being your boyfriend, you might always be the one texting him or he might call you one week and wait a month before calling again.

He pulls away from physical contact. 

Guys aren’t exactly the touchy feely type unless they’re into a girl. Then, they turn into an octopus and latch on to you for dear life. See how he reacts when you hug him or casually touch him. Anything remotely intimate or lasting more than a second and you’ll notice him pulling away. Why? He doesn’t want other women around thinking he’s taken.

He treats you like one of the guys. 

Guys always treat their guy friends one way and their girlfriend another. Once he starts treating you as one of the guys, you’re officially a friend and that’s it. If he was interested, he’d try to impress you, but you definitely won’t be impressed otherwise.

He’s eager to introduce you to his girlfriend. 

No, he’s not just trying to make you jealous. He sees you as a friend and as such wants to show off his girlfriend to you and get your opinion. At best, you’re suddenly going to become his best friend because he needs advice on how to impress his new girl.

You make a move and he doesn’t respond. 

You don’t have to sit around patiently waiting for him to make the first move. Put on your big girl panties and make a move on him. If he’s not into you, he’ll either not respond to your advances, tell you he’s interested or pull away. It’s a quick and easy way to see what he thinks about you.

His future doesn’t include you. 

Try to get him to talk about his future plans. Yeah, I know it won’t be the easiest thing to do. If he talks about everything but you, he’s not interested. Any guy who wants to be your boyfriend will take this opportunity to score brownie points by mentioning you as part of his future.

He doesn’t care about his actions around you. 

Is he nothing but a major gas leak? Does he love serenading you with classical armpit music? Basically, does he act like a frat boy in the middle of a party? Unless he’s drunk, he’s going to be on his best behavior around you if he’s interested. If he’s not, you’re going to see the side of him only his guy friends see.

He never tries to improve himself. 

Most decent guys try to impress a woman they’re interested in by working to improve themselves, especially if they’ve been friends with the woman for a while. Has he made any move to get a full time job and move out of his parents’ basement? Does he think acting like an adult is turning a dirty shirt inside out for a nice date? Until he’s interested in growing up, he’s not interested in being your boyfriend.

I know it’s hard to admit, but you’re just going to have to let this one go. There’s another guy just waiting for you to make a move. Don’t disappoint him by wasting time on a guy who’s never going to be yours.

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