Why Every Woman Needs A Friend Who Calls Her On Her BS

Good friends are hard to find, especially brutally honest ones. Plenty of people will tell you what they think you want to hear so they don’t upset you but a true friend will tell you when you’ve screwed up and they’ll stick around to help you fix it. Here’s why every woman needs a friend who isn’t afraid to say it like it is.

  1. They genuinely care about you. It might be hard to hear the truth but it’s better than being lied to. They know how it much it sucks to be let down by fake friends—that’s why they want you to know that you can always rely on them for their honesty. You might be shocked or even offended to hear someone call you out but they’re only doing it because they care. That’s friendship right there.
  2. You know that they’re 100% comfortable around you. A friend who tells you when you’ve crossed the line is a friend that’s worth keeping. They’re not too scared to tell you the truth to your face and they’ll make that pretty damn clear. The last thing they want is to upset you but they also don’t want you to carry on making bad decisions. Those kinds of friends are hard to find, so when someone like that walks into your life, make them feel appreciated.
  3. They know the real you. Other people might think they know you, but no one knows you as well as your best friend does. They can see through the facade and they know when something is bothering you. Instead of ignoring it or simply pretending like you’re fine, this friend will find out what’s wrong and they’ll try to help you fix it. They don’t care how bad it is—they’re not going anywhere.
  4. You know they would never talk about you behind your back. We all have friends who we know talk about us behind our back because we’ve heard them badmouthing their “friends” before. At least with this friend, you know that if they have anything to say, they’re going to say it to your face. It’s kind of refreshing, actually.
  5. You can learn from them. They want you to succeed in life, which is why they don’t hold back when telling you the truth. How else would you learn from your mistakes? Chances are, they’ve probably screwed up as many times as you have so they’ll always be there to make sure you don’t do the same. You’ll both be helping and supporting each other—who wouldn’t want a friend like that?
  6. You never feel afraid of saying something and being laughed at. Some friends can make you feel intimidated, which means that you usually don’t open up to them. Or maybe you opened up to that one friend and they made you feel terrible so you swore that you’d never do it again. With this friend, you don’t need to hold back when it comes to telling them the truth. They’ve heard it all before and nothing you say will make them want to leave.
  7. There are too many fake friends out there. We all have people in our lives we wouldn’t really consider friends because we don’t trust them. Honesty is so important in a friendship but it’s quite hard to find. If you find a friend who tells you how it is then you know you’ve found a friendship that’s made to last. After all, who wants another fake friend? Nobody.
  8. You don’t ever question what they tell you. You know that if they’re brave enough to call you out, there’s no reason why they would ever lie to you. They’ve never felt the need to lie to your face before, so why would they start now? You’d trust this person with your life and they’d trust you with theirs. That’s a true sign of friendship.
  9. They bring out the best in you. They’re the kind of friend who wants to be there to help you grow into the best version of yourself. You know that whenever you have a problem, you can always rely on them to give you advice. After all, they know you better than anyone.
  10. You know you’ve made a friend for life. If they’ve stuck around all of this time, through the good and bad, then why would they suddenly leave now? They know the real you and you know the real them. There’s nothing that could ruin your friendship.
  11. Your secrets are safe with them. You feel so comfortable around them that you’re opening up in a way that you’ve never been before. With your usual group of friends, you never talk about the heavy stuff because you’re scared of how they’d react. It always feels like you’re treading on eggshells. This friend has listened to you crying on the phone more times than they can count and even though they don’t tell you what you WANT to hear, they always tell you what you NEED to hear.
Coralle is a freelance writer with an interest in relationships, women's health and parenting. In her free time, she enjoys reading, watching new Netflix shows and spending time with family.