I Fell Out Of Love With My Boyfriend But I Never Plan On Leaving Him—Here’s Why

I never thought I’d fall out of love with my boyfriend, but my worst fear came true. I went from feeling butterflies in my stomach when I was around him to no longer feeling an intense spark. I thought this was a sign our relationship was over, but now I’m sure that we’ll never go our separate ways. Here’s why I won’t be leaving him even though I know the love is gone:

  1. Despite It All, We’re Perfect for Each Other. Even though I’m not head over heels in love with him anymore, that doesn’t mean our relationship completely sucks. Together, we’re absolutely perfect for each other. We respect each other and we get along great. It’s like having a best friend by my side at all times. I don’t need to be in love with him to realize we have a good thing together, and that’s something I’m not willing to let go of.
  2. Our Relationship Is Easy. Because I’m not full of all the raging emotions that go along with being in love, it actually makes our relationship so much better. I can approach our issues with a level head without going all psycho on him. I still have feelings for him, but since those feelings don’t involve intense love, it makes our relationship a lot less challenging. I’d be crazy to give up something that’s so easy.
  3. I Like Knowing He’s There. I know if I need his help in the middle of the night, he’ll always come to my rescue. He’s always been one of the most dependable people in my life. He makes me feel safe and that’s something I’ve never had with any other guy. If I have to trade in being in love for feeling secure in my relationship then I’m all in.
  4. I’m Still Attracted to Him. Don’t get me wrong, he’s still a good-looking guy. I might not think he’s as hot as he was when we first met, but he still catches my eye from time to time. The spark of being in love has faded, but that doesn’t mean I’m not attracted to him anymore.
  5. He Never Gives Up on Me. No matter if I’m being a bitch or my hormones are getting the best of me, he never gives up on me. He’s dedicated to making our relationship work no matter how many times my PMS tries to drive a wedge between us. I like that he’s willing to go the extra mile to make me happy, too. Since love isn’t keeping us together, I have to find other ways to appreciate him.
  6. I’m Too Comfortable. I’ll admit it, I’m way too lazy to dump him. We’ve been together so long that I just feel stuck with him at this point, and I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all. I imagine this is what it’s like for couples who’ve been together for 50 years. They just get to the point where staying together is much easier than breaking up. I might not love him, but I can’t even muster up the energy to end things.
  7. I Don’t Need Love to Be Happy. So what if I can’t profess my undying love for him? I don’t need to have strong feelings for him just to be happy with our relationship. I’m so content with the way things are. I’d be a fool to give it all up.
  8. Our Situation Is More Common Than I Thought. Believe it or not, I’m not the only one who’s in a loveless relationship. There are so many people out there who are in situations just like mine. If other people are staying in their relationships that are lacking love then why can’t I? And in all honesty, it actually makes me feel good to know I’m not alone. There’s nothing wrong with falling out of love but refusing to walk away.
  9. I Don’t Want to Be Crazy In Love. Some people crave the type of love that makes them literally go crazy. Personally, I’m much more comfortable with the way things are. I don’t want to be obsessed and I don’t want to feel like I can’t live without him. Being all gaga over a man is something I’ve done in the past, but I don’t want to feel that way again. Instead of him being my whole world, he’s now just a small addition to my life. And I like things better this way.
  10. I’d Rather Take My Chances With Him. Who knows if I’ll ever find someone that I get along with this well. What if I throw it all away and then I never find someone like him ever again? I don’t want to take that risk. Pulling the plug on our relationship isn’t going to happen despite the feelings being gone. I’ll happily take my chances and stick it out with him. And who knows, maybe those feelings of love will return one day.
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