You might feel like you’re the only person in the world without a significant other, but you’re not. Most of us are wandering around looking for our soulmate without any luck. Dating is stressful and time-consuming, but just because you’re rolling solo now doesn’t mean you always will be.
- You’re not going to die alone. There’s someone out there who’ll love you more than you love yourself. But, when am I going to find that special person? you ask. Maybe tomorrow or maybe in 10 years. The truth is, you won’t know until you find them, so stop putting a timeframe on it. It’ll happen when it’s meant to happen.
- Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. All your friends are getting married and having babies. That sucks—not only are your relationships weakening, but you feel like you’re the only one in the world that’s still single. You’re not! You’re just comparing yourself to a specific group of people. Scroll through Instagram on any given day and you’ll see hundreds of single girl memes. You’re a part of a community right now. Embrace it.
- Relationships don’t define you. When you die, people aren’t going to focus on the relationship you had with your significant other. They’re going to focus on the life you lived and the way you made people feel. Don’t make the mistake of thinking you’re nothing because you’re single. You’re everything!
- There’s no such thing as perfect. The perfect person doesn’t exist, so stop looking for them. Instead, give imperfect people a chance. Don’t ignore the guy with a crappy job simply because he has a crappy job. The worst thing you can do is judge a book by its cover, especially because the best books are usually tattered and falling apart.
- You can always take a break and stop trying. You’re on every dating app and you’re constantly asking your co-workers, “Do you know anyone you can set me up with?” You need to chill. Instead of looking for love everywhere, stop searching. The more energy you keep exerting with no results, the worst you’ll feel about yourself and your love life. Take a break and let the universe step in.
- You’re never really alone. How can you die alone when you’re surrounded by amazing friends and family? It’s important to always have perspective and not let your relationship status make you feel like an outcast. Count your blessings and you’ll see just how lucky you really are.
- You have to get to know yourself first. Being single means you have the perfect opportunity to live the life of your dreams. You can go out, stay in, take painting classes every Wednesday, etc. People in relationships don’t typically have that freedom and flexibility. Take advantage of these moments.
- Fix yourself while you’re at it. We all have issues. You can apply makeup and wear the best clothes, but that’s not going to mask your baggage. Take a serious look at yourself and figure out what’s holding you back from finding love. What are you insecure about? What grudges are you holding onto? Find a way to get past it, so you can grow.
- Ignore the highlight reels. You know those happy couples you’re jealous of on Instagram? They’re probably not that happy. I’m not saying they’re miserable, but Instagram is a platform for highlight reels. You’re seeing the best moments of their relationship, which means you don’t really know what’s going on behind the scenes.
- Try putting yourself out there if you haven’t been. So many of us complain about being single but we don’t do anything about it. We spend every night on our couch, eating ramen by ourselves. Guess what? In order to meet people, you have to go out. I know it sounds exhausting and intimidating but you have to put yourself out there. Seriously!
- Ignore the outside noise. Don’t listen to your grandma—you shouldn’t be married with three kids by now. It’s easy to adopt the opinions of others, especially when they’re people you trust and admire. But here’s the thing, the more you worry what other people think the less likely you are to accomplish what you want.
- Stop focusing on the negatives. There’s nothing wrong with you! You’re not single because you’re hideous or uninspiring, so stop telling yourself that. Your negative self-talk might be the reason you’re having trouble in the love department. You can’t accept someone’s love if you don’t feel confident in yourself.
- Marriage doesn’t guarantee anything. Marriage doesn’t guarantee happiness. There’s a chance, even with a partner, you’re still going to die by yourself. Statistically, a lot of marriages end in divorce and while yours might be successful, it might not. That’s why it’s so important to be okay with yourself. At the end of the day, you’re all you got.
