This Is How He Texts You When He Really Wants To Date You

Because many of our interactions, especially with the person we’ve just started dating, take place on our phones these days, you can tell a whole lot about how a guy’s feeling based on how he texts (or doesn’t text). Is he just bored and wasting time or is he actually interested? It can be hard to tell, but these texts are good indicators that he really wants to date you.

  1. He texts on time. He tells you he’ll text you once he gets home from the gym and guess what—he actually does that. He doesn’t leave you hanging all night, waiting for your interesting conversation about aliens or your life goals to be resuscitated.
  2. He doesn’t take forever to reply. Of course it’s nuts to expect him to text you back within five minutes every single time, but a guy who really likes you isn’t going to leave you waiting for a reply for hours or days. He’ll get back to you within a reasonable time frame, even if it’s just to let you know that he’s busy and will get back to you ASAP.
  3. He initiates often instead of leaving it to you. It’s great to find a guy who actually makes contact with you regularly. He’s not a myth. If he really likes you, he makes it clear that he likes you by texting you first on a regular basis. Best of all, he doesn’t play games to see when you’re going to bother texting him first.
  4. He texts sometimes without having a question. It’s great when a guy asks you questions and takes an interest in who you are, but a guy who really wants to date you doesn’t have to make every single text feel like an interview. He can just text you to share a thought or random idea because he enjoys talking to you.
  5. He’s open about his interest. He’s not going to shy away from telling you he can’t wait to see you or he really loves talking to you. It all forms part of how a guy who’s genuinely interested in you isn’t going to waste his time without letting you know about it.
  6. He texts you at different times. He doesn’t only text you late at night when he knows you’re busy and not in the mood for pics of his junk. Instead, he messages you at different times of the day, showing you that he’s keen to chat to you without having something to hide, like the guy who never responds to your texts during the day but then becomes chatty on weekend nights when he’s drunk or bored.
  7. He can do a long text, no problem. Be wary of the guy who only responds with one-word answers or gives you vague answers. He’s clearly not keen to have a real conversation. A guy who really likes you is going to write longer texts, especially when you ask him something important or complex. It’s because he enjoys talking to you and wants to reach greater emotional intimacy with you.
  8. He confirms plans. Ah, the guy who can confirm plans with you without first being asked! It’s so refreshing when he does this willingly, especially because it shows that he’s just as keen to meet up as you are. He’s taking your dates seriously.
  9. He texts after a date. It doesn’t have to be a text immediately after the date, but within the next day, he should at least tell you he had a great time and follow that up with how he’s interested in seeing you again. The guy who really, really likes you will go one step further: he’ll make plans with you for the second date.
  10. He’s open about his life. Texting doesn’t have to be difficult. A guy who says he’s not big on texting is a liar—he just doesn’t want to talk to you. A guy who likes you will be open with you about his life. You’ll get a pretty good idea of his life based on how he’s willing to share about his work, friends, and dreams.
  11. He’s the last person who texts you. In a good way! He likes to text you before you both go to sleep so he can say goodnight. Not just sweet, it shows you that you’re on his mind. Is there anything more romantic than a “sweet dreams” text from a guy you’re nuts about?
  12. He follows up. A guy who really cares about you and your life asks you follow-up questions. If you say you had a bad day, he doesn’t just say “that’s too bad” before launching into a story about his day. He’s interested in finding out what happened.
  13. He upgrades from texting. Sooner or later, it’s nice to chat to a guy on the phone to hear his voice and have a real conversation, especially if you met online. It might sound old-fashioned, but a guy who’s really into you wants that, and he makes the effort to pick up the phone instead of just relying on texting as your conversation method.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.