How To Keep Drama Out Of Your Relationship And Maintain Harmony

When you start dating someone, it’s way too easy for drama to creep into the relationship when you really want to keep it out. If there’s too much jealousy, controlling behavior, fighting, or other unnecessary heaviness, there’s no way things will last long-term. If you want to know how to avoid these common pitfalls and keep things harmonious, here are some tips.

  1. Take responsibility for your actions. Nothing brings drama to a relationship more than someone who always thinks they’re right and that every problem that arises is their partner’s fault. If you refuse to take responsibility for your actions and instead cast the blame elsewhere, not only will your partner become frustrated and resentful but you’re sure to start heading swiftly towards a breakup.
  2. Check yourself and your behavior. Before you start an unnecessary fight or start flinging accusations due to having a bad day, feeling paranoid, or whatever else is going on with you, stop and take a breath. Think about why you’re feeling the way you are and whether the way you’re acting (or are about to act) is actually appropriate. If it’s not, stop.
  3. Communicate clearly rather than clamming up. The best way to avoid drama coming into your relationship is to keep the lines of communication flowing freely. Don’t just stop talking and expect your partner to read your mind. Don’t use the silent treatment as a mode of punishment or because you’re being immature. Actually talk to each other about what’s on your mind and how you’re feeling and encourage your partner to do the same. This will ensure you’re both on the same page.
  4. Accept and respect your differences. If you’re in a heterosexual relationship, you have to realize and accept that in many ways, men and women are just different. You’ll react to certain things differently, you’ll think about things differently, and you’ll act differently. If you refuse to acknowledge this and insist that your partner acts exactly the way you would or how you want him to, you’re bound to be disappointed and your relationship will be full of drama.
  5. Act based on rationality not emotion. Don’t overreact because you’re in a hyper-emotional space. We all feel emotional sometimes, but that’s the worst time to act because it’s not based on logic and relation. When you’re in a heightened emotional state, step back and give yourself space to calm down before proceeding. You’ll be shocked at what a positive effect this can have on your relationship.
Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill