How To Get A Guy To Marry You, According To A Guy

Short of bucking tradition and proposing to your boyfriend, the best way to get a guy to marry you is to make him actually want to do it. I don’t know what you know about men and commitment, but that’s not an easy task. However, if you play your cards right, you can get him to come around on the idea of being your husband. Here are some tips to help you do just that.

  1. Be confident. Trust me when I say that no guy wants to marry someone who’s riddled with insecurity. He may love you, but he’ll always have doubts about marrying you if he senses that you don’t love yourself. You’re together – shouldn’t that be enough to feel comfortable and confident in your own skin? Frankly, no guy wants to spend the rest of his life with a woman who has self-esteem and self-image problems. On the other hand, a confident woman will make him more comfortable about the idea of marriage.
  2. Stay steady emotionally. Along with someone who’s insecure, most men don’t want to marry someone who is all drama, all the time. If you have wild mood swings, he’ll surely think twice about settling down and marrying you. To be fair, there are probably some guys who like that, but most prefer to avoid drama at all costs. Again, it doesn’t mean we don’t love you. But if there’s non-stop drama, we’ll question whether we want to spend the rest of our lives with you.
  3. Keep things spontaneous. A lot of guys worry that they’ll get married and get stuck in an endless routine. It’s probably toward the top of the list of reasons why men don’t want to get married. If you’re at that stage where marriage seems like a possibility, try to show him that you can still be fun and spontaneous. It’ll make him think that things will stay fun and exciting if he marries you. To be fair, it’s on both people in a relationship to keep things spontaneous. But when it’s you ladies bringing the spontaneity, guys worry less about making a lifetime commitment.
  4. Wear many hats. Okay, I don’t mean this literally. Outside of the Kentucky Derby, I don’t think many men go crazy for women in hats. My point is that you have to be anything and everything a guy needs. You need to be a lover, a best friend, a drinking buddy, a confidant, and so many other things. If you really want to marry a guy, make yourself an unreplaceable part of his life. It sounds like a lot, but hey, that’s how you get a guy to commit to you for a lifetime.
  5. Trick him into hanging out with married people. Yes, some trickery is okay when you’re trying to get a guy to marry you. Of course, if you get him to hang around with married people, it goes without saying that they should be happily married. When this happens, his trepidation on the subject will slowly melt away. He’ll slowly grow more comfortable with the idea and have fewer concerns that could stand in the way.
  6. Tease the possibility of a life without you. Okay, this is a little more underhanded. There’s also a fine line because you don’t want to go crazy and give him an ultimatum to marry you or it’s over. However, you can look for a subtle way to get him thinking about what his life would be like without you. Get him to take stock of what’s really important in his life. If he truly thinks you’re “The One,” he’ll start to realize that he wants to marry you.
  7. Keep trying to look your best. Don’t get mad, just accept that men are superficial. If you want to get your boyfriend to marry you, odds are you’ll have to appeal to his superficial side. I mean, you don’t want your future husband to get complacent and develop a beer guy, right? Well, guys don’t want their potential future wife to lose their physical appeal either. Plus, you want to stay healthy so you can have a long, happy life. Men will feel less excited about the idea of marriage if they can see their partner no longer making any effort to be healthy and attractive.
  8. Don’t pressure him. Last but not least, you don’t ever want to force a guy to marry you. He has to want to do it rather than feeling like he has no choice in the matter. If you want to marry someone, there’s nothing wrong with making your feelings about the subject clear, but don’t make him feel like he has to propose if he’s not ready. Marriages that begin that way typically don’t work out. The key is to be open and honest with him while letting him get there on his own. With a little encouragement and a lot of patience, he’ll usually come around.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.