How To Get Over The Disappointment Of Being Let Down By A Guy You Like

Nobody’s perfect — not even the guy who you’ve completely fallen in love with and have placed on a pedestal. He’s human and he makes mistakes and acts like a jerk sometimes. When he does something that completely lets you down or that changes the way you see him, it can hurt and leave you feeling lost. Here’s how to get over the disappointment and move on with your life.

  1. Consider what you like about him. There are so many things that can cause you to fall in love with someone, but when we’re blinded by love, we often overlook red flags or things that we wouldn’t normally tolerate from partners. When the guy you like does something to disappoint you, take a step back and think about why you fell for this person in the first place. If you’ve been brought back down to reality, you might see him differently and your feelings for him might change.
  2. Don’t overlook the unacceptable. Like I said before, now that you’ve been given this dose of reality, don’t let your feelings cause you to become oblivious to the things that this guy has said or done. It may not have been clear to you before, but don’t let it fool you again. If he’s disappointing you because he’s treating you unfairly or taking advantage of you, that’s not okay and you should never accept that kind of behavior. There is someone out there who will value you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
  3. Surround yourself with good people. Sometimes, the best thing for you when you’re sad or heartbroken is the company and love of the people in your life who care about you the most. Call up your family and your closest friends and vent to them about everything. Listen to their words of advice and solace, find comfort in the people who care, and know that what you’re feeling now will pass and it’ll get better.
  4. Take time for self-reflection. Alone time is one of the most important steps in getting over heartbreak or disappointment from a guy. Take the time to focus on yourself, be alone with your thoughts, and do things that make yourself happy. You’ll have the time to really mull things over, see it for what it really is, and decide with a clear head what your next move is going to be.
  5. Look at better examples of love. When someone that you care about has let you down and you feel defeated or at a loss for what to do next and if you need some motivation to move on and find something better, it’s never a bad idea to look to examples of strong, healthy relationships. Your family and friends might be in relationships that you admire as far as their qualities go so use that to remind yourself that there are better things waiting for you out there and you should never feel like you have to settle for less.
  6. Work on your self-confidence. Many times, the reason you find yourself in a relationship with a guy who is constantly disappointing you is that you’ve settled for someone who doesn’t deserve you. In order to find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated, you first have to believe that you deserve better. Work on building up your self-esteem and telling yourself that there’s an amazing man out there for you and that you no longer have to settle for crumbs. The guys who are always letting you down won’t even be appealing anymore.
  7. Adjust your standards. If you feel ready to put yourself out there and start dating again, adjust your standards to be different than they’ve been before. If the guys you’ve dated in the past have just let you down or broken your heart, maybe it’s time to totally revamp and rethink what you look for in a partner. There’s nothing wrong with having high standards. The right guys will rise to the occasion and be what you need them to be. It’s important to remember though, that once you change your standards, you have to stick to them. You deserve it!
  8. Weed the losers out of your life. You can’t be afraid to cut out the guys who just aren’t worth your time. If they take you for granted and constantly let you down, they have no place in your life, not even as a friend. Cut them out, stop answering their calls, and move on! You’ll be fine without them, trust me, and you’ll honestly feel so much better and freer than ever before. You don’t have time to waste on losers who can’t even keep promises or treat you with respect and value. Boy, bye!
  9. Don’t forget who you are! When someone takes advantage of us or lets us down, it’s easy to feel worthless or like we don’t measure up. Don’t ever let yourself feel that way! Keep your head up and remember that you’re not responsible for someone else’s shortcomings and that you deserve better than that. You’re a strong, beautiful, unique individual and this person just isn’t the one for you. Wipe your tears and walk away. You’re gonna be okay!
Shelby is a journalist and fiction writer raised in the South but built for the big city. She's a book nerd (well, an overall nerd, honestly) and coffee addict and obsessed with all things leather and lacy.

She has a bachelor’s degree in Mass Communication and Media Studies from Sam Houston State University and worked for her university newspaper, The Houstonian, as well as serving as a producer and part-time entertainment anchor for Cable 7 Huntsville. You can follow her on Twitter @shelby777.