When you’re in love, it’s easy to overlook or make excuses for your partner’s negative qualities. After all, no one is perfect and he’s bound to have some less desirable traits because we all do. That’s true enough, but be realistic here — it’s one thing if he’s a beer snob or if he never puts his clothes in the hamper, but it’s entirely another if he’s got his head up his own ass and always puts himself first in the relationship. If you think you might be dating a selfish guy, look out for these warning signs:
He talks about himself so much that he never gets around to asking about you.
He never asks about your day or how you’re feeling. I mean, how could he? He’s too busy talking about himself. He has no problem retelling every account of his day, but when you start talking about yours, his eyes glaze over from boredom. He’s not interested and he can’t even fake it. Selfishness at it’s finest.
He ignores or downplays your emotions.
If his reaction to every single argument/disagreement is to try to de-escalate it as quickly as possible without even solving the issue because he really can’t deal with your feelings, he’s selfish AF. You’re overreacting, you misunderstood him, you’re PMSing… he’s got every excuse in the book. It’s never his fault, even when it seriously is.
You’re always the first to apologize.
Every time you fight, you’re always the first one to say sorry — even if it wasn’t your fault. You apologize for stuff you didn’t even do because you know that’s the only way to end the argument. You’d literally go without speaking for days or weeks otherwise because he refuses to budge.
He’d rather hang out by himself/with his bros than with you.
There’s nothing wrong with spending quality time alone or with his friends, but he should want to spend time with his girlfriend too. Maybe you’re both busy and your schedules don’t always coincide — that happens, but making time for one another is crucial. If your boyfriend would prefer to spend his one free night playing video games alone or drinking beer and watching sports with the guys, there’s an issue. Bonus points if he cops an attitude when you decide to turn the tables and hang with your girls.
He has to be in control of every situation.
He’s a control freak — it’s a simple as that. Where you guys go to dinner, what time you leave, who you hang out with, the list goes on and on. Granted, he might not be dressing you (ahem, Kanye West) but he definitely wants all the power in the relationship. He tries to act it’s because he wants to take care of you, but you know that’s not true.
He never goes out of his way for you.
You’re a great girlfriend, always surprising him with little things and going that extra mile to make sure he’s happy. Does he do the same? Nope. He’s never once gone out of his to do something nice for you. And no, that one time he remembered to put the toilet seat down doesn’t count. Honestly, he thinks he treats you like a queen and he has no idea why you don’t see that — that’s the sad part.
He has ulterior motives for the nice things he does actually do for you.
On the off chance he does surprise you with a gift, it’s only to get back into your good graces. He never gives just to give or because he truly wants to. On Valentine’s Day, he might buy you flowers, but it’s only because he knows he has to if he wants to get laid. He doesn’t want to hear you complain about how crappy a boyfriend he is, so he does the bare minimum in order to avoid that discussion.
He wants you to be there for him but he doesn’t return the gesture.
You’re his emotional support, but he’s definitely not yours. There’s no way he could be — the guy doesn’t let you get a word in edgewise. He’s too busy telling you about his rough day at work or the fight he got into with his friend. But the second you try to unload your emotional stuff on him, he checks out. Suddenly, he’s tired or hungry or whatever other BS excuse he can come up with to not have to listen to you.
He doesn’t care if you finish.
In bed, it’s all about him! If he wants to try something a little different, he expects you to go along with it. He’s made it abundantly clear that his needs are far more important than yours. Once he’s finished, he’s ready to go straight to sleep — he couldn’t care less that you were left unsatisfied. He’s more than a selfish boyfriend, he’s a selfish lover.
He doesn’t know the meaning of the word “compromise.”
Relationships work because two people are willing to compromise — not this guy. He doesn’t care how much you beg or plead your case, he’s not willing to compromise. If he doesn’t want to do something, he won’t do. Maybe you think he’s just a little picky and that he’ll change the more his feelings for you grow. Maybe, or maybe he’s just a selfish jerk.
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